The other thing that came up a lot was the trope of the "crazy, evil, or dead lesbian," in particular that the pattern in popular media of making a lesbian character lose her mind or get killed as soon as it's become clear she's actually having sex with her lover. It's not a pattern I'd recognized before or even heard of, but that was the theme of a lot of the enraged meta.

The only time I've seen the crazy/evil/dead lesbian schtick done more concisely than in "Seeing Red" (1 dead lesbian, 1 evil/crazy lesbian) was "Divided Loyalties" in Season 2 of Babylon 5 (where Talia Winters becomes dead, evil, and crazy all in one fell swoop).