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I just had a total meltdown in Victoria's Secret trying to get underpinnings for the Trashy Diva dress I want to wear tonight. NO ONE MAKES PROPER UNDERGARMENTS ANYMORE. And they had me trying on all these convoluted bras that were so unnecessary if folks just made low-back bustiers and slips these days. I couldn't figure out how any of the technology worked, wound up in gender-related tears and just totally couldn't cope. Finally bought something adequate, but still think there will be problems of excessive revelation if anyone takes any flash photography of me. But it was really horrible -- Macy's, Victoria's Secret and being told to go to bridal stores that won't, you know, see me if I'm not there to buy a wedding gown. Also, the woman in the store thought I was getting ready for my prom.

I'm still reeling.

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[kel-reiley.livejournal.com]

one of my biggest hates!
we went through that when we were actually getting ready for my sister's wedding

[pennswoods.livejournal.com]

Ugh! I dread buying undergarments almost as much as I dread going to the eye doctor.

UGH.....Lingerie

[southern-belle2.livejournal.com]

Having a total meltdown in VC has nothing to do with gender my dear. At 50, I hate the very idea of lingerie. Being a short little fat woman does very little to make it better. At my worst I was a 50DD which is not a size you can find at the neighborhood KMart. I had a reduction about 15 years ago and then lost about 150 lbs, but am still large, only now also an irregular cup size. The thought of shopping for bras can make tears begin.

Strange as this sounds, being a virtual shut-in because of health and a wise distrust of the human condition as a rule does have advantages. I don't wear bras often and when I am forced to, I have acquired a taste for sports bras which may give little support, but are far more comfortable. It pisses my mother off, but frankly very little that I do doesn't piss her off.

I hope you were able to find something suitable for your evening and send wishes for abundant companions and imbibements before your next hazardous journey!

[dsudis.livejournal.com]

So sorry to hear that it sucked so much! But I just wanted to say that I was reading a little too fast and just parsed that last line as getting ready for my porn. And for a second it didn't even seem strange, being the internet and all. *g*

[ladypeculiar.livejournal.com]

Victoria's Secret is the ninth circle . . I get nuts there myself.

For something specialized, I'd recommend going into La Petit Coquette to get measured and find brands you like, and then see if you can find them discounted online.

[stakebait.livejournal.com]

I am sorry.

I highly recommend Orchard Corset, BTW, if you haven't tried it already and can stand any more of this sort of shopping. The whole thing is like something out of another era. They carry a lot of items I didn't think were made any more, as well as a lot of special sizes, all jammed into cardboard boxes always on the verge of tumbling off the walls, and the Orthodox Jewish guy who runs it can size a woman by sight, and you go into the back into a little curtain space and nice women in dowdy dresses bring you things to try on. Their assumption that I was married pushed some of my own buttons in not the best way, but apart from that...

[itcamefromjapan.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm sorry. Reading this gave me a little knot in my stomach - I've never had those specific frustrations with Victoria's Secret, but I've never had a positive experience there, either. I feel like the staff are scorning me in a way I haven't quite experienced anywhere else. The only time I've ever asked for help there was when I was fifteen; I was going to be in my dad's wedding, and needed a strapless bra to wear with my bridesmaids dress. I was a 32A at the time - hardly full-figured, but a common size and one they stock.

When I asked, though, the saleswoman just looked me up and down and said, between snickers, "Yeah, I don't think we can help you with that here."

It's a deeply uncomfortable place. I try to avoid it.

ETA: And the prom thing? Weird. I'm often perceived as younger than I am by the general public (I think I look more or less my age, but I'm about 4'9" and not exceptionally curvy, which apparently lends itself to people using the Small Child Voice on me), so I definitely get the strangeness of situations like that.

[ladyaelfwynn.livejournal.com]

Go to Frederick's of Hollywood. Yes, there's a trashy element to them, but, everytime I went there to find foundation garments that fit, I was able to. 32 D, strapless black bra, no problem. Most of their stuff isn't cheesey or embarrassing.

I don't go to Victoria's Secret any more as they no longer fit me and stopped carrying basic foundation garments as well. Looking for stuff their is a waste of my time.

I'm sorry it was a frustration.

[cookie-cm.livejournal.com]

I can relate & never even bother to walk into said stores - it's never worth my time or anguish. From your pics I can see we have a similar build. I get it.
Most of my bras are sports bras as I can almost next to never find an actual decent bra in my size. Breasts are not an A cup, more of a B cup, small, but full and wide, and my back is also more wide than slight...it's just an oddball bodily combo that designers (?) never seem to seem to think is worth the effort or consideration. Forget anything with an underwire!! The wire is never the correct width, and makes my breasts look, well, just plain obscene, and so obviously propped with clothing on. I admit I get a little sad when I see all of the 'candy' that is out there for full breasted women to choose from; no candy for me :(

[bodlon.livejournal.com]

If it comforts you any, I was twice mistaken for a high school boy this summer.

Them: "Do you go to Hickman?"

Me: "Bwuh?"