There is a major cultural dysfunction in academia

Truer words were never writ. This is a major part of why I teach as an adjunct, and my primary job is outside academia.

I'm truly sorry for what happened to you. You're far from being the only woman who's experienced this kind of hellish treatment in a graduate program, and I've also seen what you say about POC and women. I hope you've been able to find meaningful employment in your field as an ABD.