The other thing that just torques me about comments in regard to the Clementi story: "None of this would have happened if he'd been with a girl!"

OK, first? You don't know that. The roommate STILL could have taped him. Because it's not like straight 18 y.o. guys aren't possibly, oh I dunno, *shy and awkward* their first time having sex.

Second? Ah, so Clementi brought this on himself by being queer? Really?