"The queer community is not a monolith, and bullying is always wrong. Many people in oppressed communities have internalized self-hatred and standards of the dominant culture (not saying this is the case with you, trying to describe the larger context), that can make people facing the same oppressions not just have different opinions, but be on truly on different sides of the same issue. That's okay, incivility isn't. No one can speak for everyone, nor is there one true way or one right answer -- that's what we often forget in Internet discourse. But it is unfair to dare someone in this manner, for it also implies this idea of the single correct mode of action, just one that's more to your liking.
Haven't read the story, and am hesitant to speak to a part of the community I am not a direct member of. But bullying is wrong. And people who have harmed you or others supporting a good cause, does not necessarily make that cause less good.
I'm sorry this is hard and complicated shit. I'm even more sorry that people forget that, cruelly."
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Date: 2010-10-08 06:53 pm (UTC)"The queer community is not a monolith, and bullying is always wrong. Many people in oppressed communities have internalized self-hatred and standards of the dominant culture (not saying this is the case with you, trying to describe the larger context), that can make people facing the same oppressions not just have different opinions, but be on truly on different sides of the same issue. That's okay, incivility isn't. No one can speak for everyone, nor is there one true way or one right answer -- that's what we often forget in Internet discourse. But it is unfair to dare someone in this manner, for it also implies this idea of the single correct mode of action, just one that's more to your liking.
Haven't read the story, and am hesitant to speak to a part of the community I am not a direct member of. But bullying is wrong. And people who have harmed you or others supporting a good cause, does not necessarily make that cause less good.
I'm sorry this is hard and complicated shit. I'm even more sorry that people forget that, cruelly."