Speaking as someone from Austria, the thing is that the discussion is still ongoing. Here especially things were conveniently swept under the carpet after the war, repressed, forgotten, Austria was also a victim after all; parents didn't talk to their children, children on the whole didn't ask. In Austria the discussion only really started in the 80ies and 90ies with the generation of the grandchildren, and it was only in 1991 that our chancellor apologised for the part Austria and Austrians played in the holocaust.

As I understand it, things were a bit different in Germany, but even there there still was a huge controversy over the exhibitions about the crimes of the Wehrmacht in the 90ies.

The situation is changing, though. Since the end of the 90ies there's an increasing amount of defensiveness or even anger, and people essentially saying that everyone should already get over it already, which is all kinds of problematic in entirely different ways.