Oh, the continuing and unwinnable appearance wars as laid out by The Beauty Myth. Wear your hair long and be accused of trying too hard to appeal to the male gaze, but cut it short, and you'll eventually get whined at for not trying hard enough. Fuck em all and wear it how you want.

I for one just shelled out to look like Charlize Theron in Aeon Flux. Just about managed it too, without going so far as plastic surgery.