Well, "My mother never loved me" is always a more effective statement than "sometimes it seemed my mother never loved me." And I don't really have many occasions in my life for the ineffective statement. It's almost a bad habit, except it _works_. I tend to presume the people in my life I actually want to be friends with are smart and confident enough to overlook that crap, or at least not believe it while they hold it against me. Some people always drink too much at your Christmas party or allow their children to run rampant at holidays. I make sweeping statements. (I've also just watched Priscilla Queen of the Desert for the first time, which is to say I'm entirely out of hand at the moment).
And you didn't strike me as young and silly, so much as you struck me as different and made me revisit what I was actually like at 16 - 20, which is to say, a very nervous and naive wannabe tart who was anything but a beacon of sophistication. Which is to say, you're definitely faring better. What did strike me is that you want better for yourself than your reflexes and I don't think enough people feel that way.
A lot of my current friends are people I've known since they were of similar age, and the stuff in this post just sort of came to me in thinking aloud in that email, mainly because of a good friend who had all sorts of motives ascribed to her by an older man who found her desireable, and it wasn't really like that. She was just trying to figure out how to be, and he thought it was about him. All of us are looking for approval somewhere and most of us are idiots if we think that's about other people.
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Date: 2003-07-18 11:10 pm (UTC)And you didn't strike me as young and silly, so much as you struck me as different and made me revisit what I was actually like at 16 - 20, which is to say, a very nervous and naive wannabe tart who was anything but a beacon of sophistication. Which is to say, you're definitely faring better. What did strike me is that you want better for yourself than your reflexes and I don't think enough people feel that way.
A lot of my current friends are people I've known since they were of similar age, and the stuff in this post just sort of came to me in thinking aloud in that email, mainly because of a good friend who had all sorts of motives ascribed to her by an older man who found her desireable, and it wasn't really like that. She was just trying to figure out how to be, and he thought it was about him. All of us are looking for approval somewhere and most of us are idiots if we think that's about other people.