longer thought about this later

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I think I get the most emotionally caught up in my status BS in a bad way when my "very fictional life," as I call it isn't taken seriously.

More specifically, how many of us pay lip service to the idea of "chosen family" or "created family" but still don't really treat such connections as seriously as biological or legal connections? One could argue there are logistically valid reasons for that, but is life really lived on logistics? I suppose this is iterations #904539054 of my complaint about the phrase of "just friends." I realize, of course, what it's supposed to mean, but it always sounds like an oxymoron to me, how can you be calling someone a friend and neglible at the same time?

I go do stuff now before I get cranky.

Oh, speaking of cranky -- if you're following the Gather dramarama -- apparently homosexual marriage will make your health insurance rates go up.

Tomorrow's SFF column that I won't even work on until tomorrow night is going to be "Does Cyberpunk Still Matter?"

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[baronalejandro.livejournal.com]

There is a chosen, select group of people that I have no blood relation with, who are on my emergency-call list, or 'in-case-of-emergency-call'.

[redstapler.livejournal.com]

My best friend had a key to my apartment LONG before my mother did.

Heck, even my boyfriend had one before she did.

[manycolored.livejournal.com]

The more insured people there are, the fewer uninsured people will be clogging up the ER and then not paying. There will be fewer uninsured people waiting for minor and chronic conditions to turn expensively and schedule-disruptingly severe and acute before they seek medical care. There will be fewer bankruptcies over medical expenses and fewer people crashing into the social safety net.

It sounds like a last-ditch effort to find an excuse for bigotry that doesn't sound quite as bigoted as "Homosexuals make me feel threatened, so I want to keep them safely under the boot of the status quo."

[spiralflames.livejournal.com]

"just friends" has always made me cringe. i've had arguments over this..to me, "just lovers" would be SO much more appropriate, where friendship is much more delicate and emotionally volatile.

the health insurance thing has ALWAYS bugged me, when people cash in because they happened to sign a document ages ago. since i am self employed and had NO health insurance, i had to literally almost die before i got hauled into the hospital with cancer.

and as far as status- there is NO status LOWER than being a 'girlfriend' but not 'married' in a straight relationship. i always remember when i was with my Ex and we both got sick..some awful lung thing..he of course went to his dr, got drugs, and was fine in 3 days. i, the nobody he was living with and uninsured, was sick for 12 weeks.

i keep saying, let's end ALL the controversy- let's just do away with MARRIAGE, since it means nothing anyhow, and let each human choose their OWN way of caring for..gasp..themselves.

[saltbox.livejournal.com]

Here is where I try to take a more nuanced approach. Which may not mesh with the Gather controversy, because I haven't been following it closely. I agree with you wholeheartedly that chosen circles may matter more than other connections, emotionally. But what I worry about (and I'm *NOT* saying that you're doing this, but I worry that there may be people who do) who opt out of formal political participation in favor of their chosen circles. And by this I mean not just voting, but writing formal legal representatives, engaging in political dialogue that takes us outside of our more comfortable chosen spheres, etc. Again, I am not saying that you're doing that (I add these caveats because people often see this as a personal attack). I try to encourage my students to all participate politically--from writing and speaking with their representatives, to commenting on proposed regulations, to acting as legal representatives in support of their political views. It often fails, and it saddens me. Because while social spheres do matter, the legal spheres matter as well. And despite what some might hope, they aren't going away anytime soon.

[ladyofthelog.livejournal.com]

I have a lot of friends I consider sisters, and a few I consider brothers. They are as much family to me as the one I was born into.

A lot of people have been confused by the upcoming housing situation for this fall, where I'm moving in with my best friend and her husband. Um... they are like my sibs. Plus, more people = ability to rent a house and get Netflix.

We plan to invite Ann's brother and sister to live with us in the future.

[wordsofastory.livejournal.com]

I think it's pretty awesome that people are still commenting on that article.

I think it is surprising, really, how many people treat friendships- or anyone you're not biologically related to- as carrying no obligations or seriousness. I really can't imagine doing that.

Also, cyberpunk yay! I say it still matters because I want to read it.

[delchi.livejournal.com]

pay lip service to the idea of "chosen family" or "created family" but still don't really treat such connections as seriously as biological or legal connections?

For me, I take the chosen family / created family seriously as it's the only family I really have. What bothers me is when people don't / refuse to see it that way and assume alterior motives that aren't there.

I think cyberpunk does still matter, it just has to go through the popularity wringer and emerge once again as what it was meant to be prior to being used as a top 40 moneymaker. I've watched too many people out here add the term ' cyber ' to their chosen scene name , put on some goggles, grab a glow stick and go on their merry way without any more tech in them than your average ipod implant victim.

Take SecondLife for example. PResenting us with the nearest thing to Snowcrash we will see for a while, it was initially overrun with people riding motorcycles and brandishing swords but in the end this all gave way to virtual brothels and casinos. Sooner or later the mainstream will get their rocks off and move on to the next meme. The people who have read Phillip K. Dick cover to cover will crawl back out and turn the digital landscape back into the vision of the mid 80's under the blankets with the flashlight book readers.

IMHO, naturally.