Longest Night Costume
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rmSo, it seems there is going to be a Longest Night ball at Lunacon this year, thanks to Jacqueline Carey being the GoH.
Which means I _have_ to costume. Which surprises me a little, as there's a certain car crash feeling I also have about the Kushiel books and possibly their fans. But, there's also a real beauty in them, and a ferocity, that I find meaningful and fun.
My current ideas are:
- Mara. Not Phedre as Mara. Just Mara. I love the story. And it speaks to my inner Snape. And it would be easy to do. (and yes, I'll have a marque as Patty and I are going to play with a lot of henna -- again, not Phedre's). Downside? People will make assumptions about me that I'm not going to enjoy fielding.
- Someone from House Shahrizai. The black and gold brocade would be fun (more work for me) and people won't fuck with me.
- A Cassaline. Easy. But not showy. People won't fuck with me at least, but it seems lame to assemble all that weaponry to then peace tie it all and have to be dour all night besides.
I am, if you didn't know, very sensitive about people touching me without my leave. I'm also very sensitive about submission being grounds to condescend to people. I'm also very sensitive to the "you have sex, so why won't you fuck me" anger, and it's all stuff I see in the geek community, and worry strongly will be out in force at this year's Lunacon.
Thoughts?
Which means I _have_ to costume. Which surprises me a little, as there's a certain car crash feeling I also have about the Kushiel books and possibly their fans. But, there's also a real beauty in them, and a ferocity, that I find meaningful and fun.
My current ideas are:
- Mara. Not Phedre as Mara. Just Mara. I love the story. And it speaks to my inner Snape. And it would be easy to do. (and yes, I'll have a marque as Patty and I are going to play with a lot of henna -- again, not Phedre's). Downside? People will make assumptions about me that I'm not going to enjoy fielding.
- Someone from House Shahrizai. The black and gold brocade would be fun (more work for me) and people won't fuck with me.
- A Cassaline. Easy. But not showy. People won't fuck with me at least, but it seems lame to assemble all that weaponry to then peace tie it all and have to be dour all night besides.
I am, if you didn't know, very sensitive about people touching me without my leave. I'm also very sensitive about submission being grounds to condescend to people. I'm also very sensitive to the "you have sex, so why won't you fuck me" anger, and it's all stuff I see in the geek community, and worry strongly will be out in force at this year's Lunacon.
Thoughts?
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Date: 2008-01-07 04:38 pm (UTC)Ha ha ha ha ha! Yes. Combined with 'hot bi babe' and the underlying vibe of 'you're fat and should be happy that *I* like you' (disguised as 'Did you know how hot you are????? Coz YOU SHOULD!!'), plus that weird 'big girls are all submissive and that means I will treat you a certain way' thing and yes, the touching, are all why the overlap b/w the 'sex positive' community and the poly/geek communities can really get to me.
Sometimes putting on some kind of mental armor helps.
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Date: 2008-01-07 05:04 pm (UTC)I started a profile on OKCupid in a fit of... I don't know, boredom and curiosity, did not upload a picture or input any information about me other than the minimum required to create a profile, so all people know about me is that I'm female, in my late twenties, and willing to sleep with men or women, and I still get people trying to talk to me who don't care about my interests or what I look like because clearly being a bisexual female means I'm hot and have no standards.
The kinky community should know better though -- if you're rude about consent issues, no one will want to play with you.