On a more serious note, I think the appeal is the same reason why fanfic writers make het couples have babies: it's just what's expected of people.
You grow up, find a significant other of some form, get married, reproduce and then eventually divorce (though, I don't think there's societal pressure to divorce, and if there is, there certainly isn't as much pressure for it as there is pressure to find someone, get married and reproduce).
I honestly feel that part of the reason there are so many bad parents out there is because said parents weren't taught to think for themselves, or be self-aware enough to know they wouldn't make good parents. Ever watch Nanny 911 or Super Nanny, or whatever that show is? Well, there's this one character, a mom, who's too shy to tell anyone no. She's got two hellions for kids. The people's names don't matter, since those shows tend to have x number of standard episodes that repeat with different names and faces.
Anyways, it's pretty obvious from the get go that mom wouldn't make a good mom in the first place, based on her interactions with other people (ie: she tends to 'bow out' in confrontation). I always wonder if this mother would've even become a mother if she hadn't had so much pressure from society/it weren't so expected that every couple have children (or get married and then have children). Would she have become a mother if she had enough self-awareness to admit that she doesn't have enough bark to keep children in line? I presume she doesn't have the self-awareness, as opposed to self confidence to voice her objections, simply because if she lacked the self confidence to voice her objections, she could've still used birth control. Although, usually people like this tend to have a great sense of honour and don't do sneaky underhanded things like that. Unlike people like me, who sometimes bow out so we don't hurt other people's feelings, and then welch behind their backs, if we're sure they won't know about it or it won't cause that person harm. For me, I learned this tactic after being scolded for choosing the wrong option (when the outcome wouldn't have mattered either way), and when telling someone my honest opinion resulted in hurt feelings (usually, this has been my mother). For those reasons, I find this to be an acceptable practice in the moment (though, I cringe in recognition of the dishonesty afterwards).
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Date: 2008-03-31 09:54 am (UTC)You grow up, find a significant other of some form, get married, reproduce and then eventually divorce (though, I don't think there's societal pressure to divorce, and if there is, there certainly isn't as much pressure for it as there is pressure to find someone, get married and reproduce).
I honestly feel that part of the reason there are so many bad parents out there is because said parents weren't taught to think for themselves, or be self-aware enough to know they wouldn't make good parents. Ever watch Nanny 911 or Super Nanny, or whatever that show is? Well, there's this one character, a mom, who's too shy to tell anyone no. She's got two hellions for kids. The people's names don't matter, since those shows tend to have x number of standard episodes that repeat with different names and faces.
Anyways, it's pretty obvious from the get go that mom wouldn't make a good mom in the first place, based on her interactions with other people (ie: she tends to 'bow out' in confrontation). I always wonder if this mother would've even become a mother if she hadn't had so much pressure from society/it weren't so expected that every couple have children (or get married and then have children). Would she have become a mother if she had enough self-awareness to admit that she doesn't have enough bark to keep children in line? I presume she doesn't have the self-awareness, as opposed to self confidence to voice her objections, simply because if she lacked the self confidence to voice her objections, she could've still used birth control. Although, usually people like this tend to have a great sense of honour and don't do sneaky underhanded things like that. Unlike people like me, who sometimes bow out so we don't hurt other people's feelings, and then welch behind their backs, if we're sure they won't know about it or it won't cause that person harm. For me, I learned this tactic after being scolded for choosing the wrong option (when the outcome wouldn't have mattered either way), and when telling someone my honest opinion resulted in hurt feelings (usually, this has been my mother). For those reasons, I find this to be an acceptable practice in the moment (though, I cringe in recognition of the dishonesty afterwards).