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I know someone has to be working on the compromise angle. I know that something is better than nothing, but wow, do I resent the New York Times telling me what should be "good enough" for me as a queer person.

I hate the gay marriage debate so much I don't even know where to start. It's just non-stop awful, overshaodws other critical issues for queer people and yet has symbolic primacy in terms of how we are perceived by the broader world. It's a fucking mess.

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/02/22/opinion/22rauch.html


Meanwhile, I have cold and feel utterly like crap.

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Even when I was a teenager, and homosexuality seemed strange and icky, I thought, "Well, of course they can marry! I just don't want to think about it!" Now it's been 11 years since I made the adjustment to the wider world, and I have to be careful not to marginalize people who don't do the stereotypical thing by treating sexuality/sexual preference as irrelevant. As long as some segments of society MAKE it relevant by making a big deal about it, I can't let myself brush it off. But gay marriage is still a big, "Well, DUH!" for me. The mindset that feels threatened by gay marriage is alien to me, and very scary, so the idea of a "compromise" legal status doesn't make sense to me. Not unless you do away with straight marriages too, and give EVERYBODY civil unions regardless of the gender combinations and numbers involved.

The big philosophical reason I'm for gay marriage is that it'll destroy the Family. :) That is, the social control mechanism enforced by economic dependence and compulsory restrictive gender roles. I'm all in favor of families, even families with a working dad, a stay-home mom, and two or more kids living in a house in the suburbs. They're fine by me just as much as the working-mom-and-dad families, two-moms and two-dads families, two-dads-and-a-mom families, mom-and-her-mom families, and whatever other household structures we ingenious creatures can come up with.