sundries

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Oh there are new Torchwood promo pictures in Gay Times, and they are happy-making. If you care, you've probably already seen them.

I've had a couple of conversations that have almost been awful but have turned out well in the end about how to be a good LGBTQ ally over the last couple of days. I've never had to do that before in the "no, you don't get a cookie" and "please don't police our emotional responses to discrimination" sense. Interesting stuff which leads me to say if I've ever been the person who needed the wack with the clue-by-four when it comes to stuff about being anti-racist and trying to be an ally to PoC: thank you for your patience (and sorry that you needed it). I have a whole new perspective now. This shit wore me down in about ten minutes. Oh my god. (But seriously, props to the people I had those LGBTQ conversations with.)

I'm working about a thing about prop 8, that's also very much about female identity/autonomy/signifiers of adulthood/ownership. I'm not sure if it's going to come together or not. I want it to, I'm really happy with the idea of it, but it's probably the most convoluted interlacing of topics I've tried I a while.

My gorgeous white gown will be here probably Friday. But I probably won't be wearing it out this weekend, as I should wear suit to Duchess thing.

Patty is awesome. She will also be home Monday.

I've had 4 hours of sleep thanks to work gone wrong. I don't even want to discuss the condition I'm in right now.

No specific garden updates, but everything is continuing to do well. Actually, I'm realizing it's wednesday and 3pm, I should actually go buy the other planned plants.

Oh yes, and I forgot to mention, laurab1 made fanart for my TW fic "Because Men Once Went West." Snazzy.

Did you all know there is a sequel to The Vintner's Luck coming out? I've pre-ordered my copy.

Comments

[genmaicha.livejournal.com]

Your tweet about being an ally and emotional response comes at a wonderful time, when I have been informed that if people would just calm down, the logical solution would present itself and everyone will just see it clearly.

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

That and being told we should dialog with those who regard us with contempt.
Plant food!

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

I'm having a conversation on Twitter right now with a very nice person who doesn't get it. This person is physically handicapped, but I'm loath to make the relevant analogies. No idea waht to do.

[genmaicha.livejournal.com]

A much stickier situation than the one I'm in. I was just essentially told that people would be more willing to talk to me (and anyone else) about this if I'd calm down from my outrage, and being passionate without proving I've thought hard about my position does no one any good. I've written that one off as someone I'm not interested in speaking with on this issue, if they refuse to see my emotional response and investment as anything other than a hurdle I've imposed on myself.

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

It comes down to being told that everything will be just peachy if we act nice.
I am old enough to remember the civil rights movement. Our side didn't win until people stopped being so damn civil.

Allies are different though. They care. They don't get it. But they caare.