meme

[rm]

The problem with Livejournal is that we all think we are so close, but really, we know nothing about each other. Hence, I want you to ask me something you think you should know about me. Something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Then post this in your LJ (if you want to) and find out what people don’t know about you.

Okay, I loathe the wording the meme, but I'm at work (waaaah), and people have been asking questions lately that I've now lost track of where they were to answer (someone asked about perfume a few days ago, that sticks in my mind). So if you're so inclined, have at.

Comments

[earthgoat.livejournal.com]

How are you able to share so much with others on your lj? You have these amazing but incredibly personal stories that few would tell to their closest confidants yet you are able to share them in a very public arena!

[rm.livejournal.com]

I think it's a defect. ;)

Um, seriously, I don't know.

I guess, there's a few things:

1. I grew up in a very emotional household. My father's family is Sicilian. There was a lot of yelling, a lot of melodrama, passive aggression and just all sorts of stuff. Everything was loud. Yawns were loud.

2. Talking about stuff relieves the pressure for me.

3. I'm not always sure I always get that other people are really there and absorbing what I say. It's an only child thing.

4. Secrets are really, really fucking dangerous. Yes, there's stuff that I wouldn't necessarily want certain people in my life to find out, but I never want someone to have a gotcha over me. There are things I'm ashamed of in my life: letting people walk all over me, treating people badly, not having the courage to deal with situations instead of avoiding them. But I won't be ashamed of the fact that I've had an abortion, or been involved in sex work, or am really insecure or whatever. I just can't. It's my life, I've made my choices, I've lived with their consequences -- good and bad. There's no reason to have shame too.

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

I think your refusal to be ashamed is very powerful. None of those things can be used as a weapon against you, although fools will of course try it. Let them eat baby-cakes!