common secrets
Sep. 24th, 2009 11:37 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rmhttp://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/24/miscarriage-is-a-workplace-event/
I'm obsessed with common secrets, the things that happen all the time but no one talks about or if they do talk about they usually do it with lots of judgment because that's the only way the discussion is allowed.
This is on that.
It's about miscarriage and abortion.
But it's also about statistics.
And the less bad of bad options.
And the way we judge women.
And what we say on Twitter.
And being uncomfortable.
And controlling our lives by telling our stories.
I'm obsessed with common secrets, the things that happen all the time but no one talks about or if they do talk about they usually do it with lots of judgment because that's the only way the discussion is allowed.
This is on that.
It's about miscarriage and abortion.
But it's also about statistics.
And the less bad of bad options.
And the way we judge women.
And what we say on Twitter.
And being uncomfortable.
And controlling our lives by telling our stories.
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Date: 2009-09-25 12:15 pm (UTC)I figured that if I had the miscarriage, the embryo (it was an early miscarriage) wasn't viable and it was for the best. It took me four months to get pregnant. Miscarriage in month three, baby stuck in month four. I knew trying for a baby I'd likely have one, because I knew the statistics on it.
I was just thankful it happened early on, rather than after quickening.
People need to get over themselves.
N.