a good you can do
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britgeekgrrl's husband has been battling cancer for a couple of years now. Sadly, that battle is almost over and sooner than was expected. If you've ever lost a loved-one you know that death-related expenses can be massive, even when choosing the most affordable and simple options, as is the case here. Cremation and associated costs are expected to run about $1,400 and it's just not in a budget that thought the timeline on this was going to run for several more months. As kshandra notes in her own post on the subject, we're "also hoping to cover Johanna's day-to-day expenses for a while as she sadly does not qualify for Family Medical Leave Act coverage and only has about 45 hours of PTO available to her at work."I've known
britgeekgrrl online for years and have met her at cons (she is a costumer and, as I put it, of the Whoniverse (a fandom, it's worth noting, that has led to a lot of discussions around here about the connection between death and hope)), although I've never had the pleasure of meeting her husband. I've watched her struggle with the little bullshit life deals all of us and figure it out, and then, sadly have to rise to this particular set of events with dignity and focus in conditions where it would be hard for anyone to have either.There's not much we can really do for other people, and all of us wind up with our own set of circumstances, but I really believe -- I have to believe -- that there's service and value each in seeing people in, through, and out of this life, even if we don't have children, even if we never have to tend to a loved-one near the end.
So this is me asking for a favor, not just because
britgeekgrrl and her husband need your help so that the end of their time together isn't focused on funereal financial worries, but because in a awful situation this is a good you can do even if death is not just a tragic thing, but an ordinary thing.So, if you've got and money to spare, and I know many of us don't in this economy and this season, please PayPal a little bit to johanna_mead@yahoo.com Please select Gift (under Personal) under transaction to reduce the Paypal fee situation. Boosting the signal is also welcome.
I would very much like her to be able to stop worrying about the financial aspect of at least the cremation today, and I believe we can make that happen.
ETA:
britgeekgrrl reports that the cremation and related expenses have been covered by everyone's generosity. Additional donations she's received will also allow her to bring in home nursing aides to make this easier on both her and Alex. THANK YOU, INTERNETS.
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Date: 2009-12-01 04:35 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-12-01 04:54 pm (UTC)I am currently dealing with massive debt thanks to my stroke a few years ago, so I can't afford to give you as much as I want to. But please know that my thoughts are with you and your husband.
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Date: 2009-12-01 04:49 pm (UTC)Also, please know that the Internet has got your back too. When you need us, say the word. Money's the last shit anyone should have to worry about in these circumstances, but between our healthcare and death industries, it's usually near the top of the list.
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Date: 2009-12-01 05:16 pm (UTC)I really appreciate your words and actions. Thank you.
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Date: 2009-12-01 05:23 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2009-12-01 05:37 pm (UTC)If 200 people chip in $7, the cremation is taken care of. $7 is such a small amount of money. One meal at a fast food joint. A breakfast in, instead of at Starbucks. Two gallons of gas. Most of us have something we can budget away in exchange for there being just a little more human kindness and love in the world. Just a little less disconnection and pain.
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Date: 2009-12-01 05:54 pm (UTC)Let me know if the attribution of your words isn't clear enough. My brain is a little fuzzy this morning.
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Date: 2009-12-01 06:08 pm (UTC)Thank you!
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Date: 2009-12-01 06:39 pm (UTC)It sounds like there was a very sudden change, so I'll keep my fingers crossed that there can be another sudden change for the better.
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Date: 2009-12-01 06:19 pm (UTC)Fandom is awesome about stuff like this.
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Date: 2009-12-01 06:35 pm (UTC)This is the last time in the world people should be worrying about money. My years of working with dying children at St Jude at least schooled me in that.
If she doesn't get to the needed amount today let me know and I will send more.
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Date: 2009-12-01 08:15 pm (UTC)This really shouldn't be the concern, I hope things work out in that regard without too much trouble.
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