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[rm]

Hey, when I say don't be assholes the correct response is not ignoring people's boundaries and/or making DIAF remarks. I am not happy.

Fuck Yeah, Skeksis!

I find the idea of "Things That Are Not Like Guns" weirdly hilarious. Last night Patty and I had a long discussion about to what degree sharks are, or are not, like guns. Sharks are, for the record, not like guns.

HPOA girl likely fake. Some iteration of just that thing shows up every couple of years, and the story is always too perfect -- pretty chick (you side with her), industry people love to hate (Wall Street now, Internet start-ups then), with lots of expected sexism (it could be an after-school special!), culminating with an attack on some Internet phenomenon that annoys the fuck out of a lot of people (Farmville).

The flight attendant story is still real though.

And so is that of the guy who took his bus on a 1,300 mile detour.

Interesting story about the legality of 66 marriage licenses issues to same sex couples in New Mexico in 2004. They stand.

Mexico City same-sex marriages must be recognized as legal throughout Mexico.

And Costa Rica has ruled against a referendum that would take a vote on recognizing same-sex unions. The courts says such a vote would put LGBT at a disadvantage.

Is that your baby? About being mistake for the nanny in multi-racial families.

Patty sent this to me yesterday as "Horrifying Inception Find." There's really little more I can add, but I'll warn you it's a screen-shot of a Craigslist casual encounters ad, the language is NSFW, and it's in the category of dirty, dirty cosplay sex. I share because I care.

Rules for hats flumox hipsters: I don't care if your fedora cost $80, when you're inside, you take it off.

I hate this fucking Jack/Auggie fic. Okay, I've finally got Auggie's voice, and I know where it's going and what is already ridiculously wrong with the whole thing and faily and needs to be fixed. But increasingly, I feel like I can't write this fic without making a mess. Every online conversation I see about Auggie on blogs related to disabiity issues has about six different sides. Which is to say, I don't think it's possible to produce this story without being really offensive to multiple someones.

That said, I'm still beating my head against the thing, because I think the pairing and the story make sense and that it should be possible to tell a good story that isn't faily. So, if you're tuned in to Covert Affairs, and particularly if you're viewing it from a living with disabilities perspective, and have a comment about what they are doing right or wrong with Auggie (aside from the actor not actually being blind, since that's a perfectly reasonable topic for conversation, but one that won't help me solve this story) that you'd like to share, I am so all ears. Aaaaaaaaaaaaargh.

Speaking of Covert Affairs -- how great was this week's episode? Jai suddenly gets interesting and isn't just the bad guy. I don't hate the idea of a possible Jai, Auggie, Annie love triangle (oh god, someone write me that threesome). The gossipy relationship premise of the show is feeling more organic even if it's still too straight for my taste. The women kick ass. And pretty much everything is awesome except for the whole thng with Annie's former beau that I just don't care about at all.

Which brings us to White Collar -- now that was an episode. And Peter is just so effortlessly the boss of Neal, it's kinda hilarious. And I loved the high-class repoman chick. And Neal's look of being nauseated in the face of handling a gun, and pretty much the whole thing which felt like a very New York episode. Much love. I still don't care about Kate though, even if the part of the story about the FAA tapes was actually well done.

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[eumelia.livejournal.com]

I loved that Neal was being all jealous of Sara being noticed by Peter. So cute.

Do all Insurance Reclaiming Investigators carry around batons?! This is the second time I've seen this happen on television with Insurance people on shows revolving around con people.

ETA: Wow, I'm glad I missed the discussion that went on in your previous post. Fuck me.

[mangosteen]

Re: The HPOA girl.

I really wanted to believe it... but my spidey sense told me that the lighting was too good.

(Really? A key light? Uh huh.)

[5251962.livejournal.com]

It went from an entirely too long version of "I've got (insert minority) friends, I am not bigoted" to DIAF. I think that's rather telling, personally.

[firefly124.livejournal.com]

Hey, when I say don't be assholes the correct response is not ignoring people's boundaries and/or making DIAF remarks. I am not happy.

*boggles* I shouldn't be, but yet I'm stunned that a) "don't be assholes" needs saying and b) that this should need saying on top of it.

[yendi]

Sharks are not guns, but sharks with fricking lasers are a little more like guns (or at least like sharks with guns).

[sageautumn.livejournal.com]

*thinks* Crossbows are kinda like guns...

[laughingacademy.livejournal.com]

Re: White Collar, beautiful insurance investigator vs. charming crook -- I'm waiting for someone to allude to The Thomas Crown Affair in-show. (Probably Moz. Speaking of which, HAHAHA Grease reference!)

Possibly relevant to your interests: Inception Director Loves Killing Off Women, at Jezebel.com

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

But sharks with lasers are inherently cooler than guns

[chris-walsh.livejournal.com]

Sharks should have missiles anyway.

[alt_universe_me.livejournal.com]

Re: Jack/Auggie

So, I wasn't going to comment on this, since I don't actually watch Covert Affairs, but I googled a little bit and now have a brief introduction to Auggie. I'm just curious what elements of the story could be offensive? I mean, having sex with a person who is blind is not any different from having sex with someone who has full sight in most ways. I've had close relationships (read: sex) with a man who is blind and has mobility issues, as well with a woman who has mobility issues. I didn't see them as "disabled" and I don't really think that Jack would see Auggie that way. I mean, Jack loves all people for themselves in my opinion. He sees the individual, which was how I saw the individuals with which I was involved. And they saw me as an individual and looked past my borderline personality issues. I don't think that there's anything inherently offensive about writing a Jack/Auggie fic.

So, anyways, sorry I can't offer specific Covert Affairs knowledge, but if you want to throw a few lines at me, I'd be more than happy to take a look.

[annlarimer.livejournal.com]

What we really need is a gun that fires sharks.

[rm.livejournal.com]

The issue isn't Jack and Auggie hooking up (which is going to be all sorts of smoking hot), the issue is about if I write something more than a PWP at all, which I do reflexively, handling Auggie's blindness, his sentiments anout it, other people's sentiments about it, what type of work he's assigned at the CIA, to what degree the fact that they won't let him into the field is reasonable or not, etc.

[yarram.livejournal.com]

All I can say about the DIAF thread is... ewww. Way to miss the point of "Derailing for Dummies".

I love my SO deeply, we've been together almost 14 years, but he still does some deeply audist/ableist things despite knowing I have a hearing impairment. I love him _anyway_, but still... some days... *headdesk*. <wry grin>

[rm.livejournal.com]

I've seen some discussion of that, and I don't necessarily find it as problematic as a lot of people do. For example, The Prestige comes from source material not Nolan's own (although he did choose the project sure) and all directors have obsessions, that usually feel pretty gross because they are obsessions (Baz Luhrmann and Peter Jackson both come through on this point over and over again). While I think the "tragic dead girl drives plot" thing blows, I don't think Nolan's work gets off on or sexualizes killing women, which would be where I would have a problem with things.

I think Nolan, like lots of creators of both genders, view women as disposable items that kick the plot along when shit happens to them. But this is largely an artifact of our making films mostly about men, and therefore the love interests bite it (see: Ianto Jones, dead dead dead) -- in a hteronormative film-making climate, that's a lot of dead chicks.

It sucks, and we need more films about women that aren't women's films, but I don't particularly feel that Nolan deserves singling out on this point or is more creepy than other directors for being a product of the box-office and studio climate.

[rm.livejournal.com]

I perhaps need an overall projectile weapons category. Sharks are not projectile weapons, despite fast swimming.

[brewsternorth.livejournal.com]

I find the idea of "Things That Are Not Like Guns" weirdly hilarious.

I feel it ought to be an icon. Possibly with animation.

[browneyedgirl65.livejournal.com]

I hear ya (no pun intended). In some ways I don't think it's *possible* for hearies to shed all audist notions. There is something terribly primally ingrained into the primitive brainstem area about sound.

You have to give up on it after awhile after the eleventy millionth article you see that declares IT'S LOVE OF MUSIC THAT SEPARATES HUMANS FROM ANIMALS!!

*ahem* Yeah, anyway.

Glad I missed this one.

[airspaniel.livejournal.com]

I immediately envisioned some sort of shark-launching trebuchet. Double the deadliness!

[missysedai.livejournal.com]

ETA: Wow, I'm glad I missed the discussion that went on in your previous post. Fuck me.

SRSLY.

Damn, rm, you're a more patient soul than I. I'd have had the BanHammer of Pissed Off Skull Crushing out and working PDfuckingQ.

[alt_universe_me.livejournal.com]

Ah, I see what you mean now. I misunderstood what you were referring to as possibly offending some people.

And those things aren't inherently offensive either, but I see where they need to be handled with care and consideration. :)

[missysedai.livejournal.com]

My husband said that he knew it was fake because of HPOA. No one talks like that in the workplace, he said.

We had A Discussion about that nonsense. *sigh* You'd think he'd know better by now.

[rm.livejournal.com]

delchi is someone I know F2F, and I had hopes the the conversation would get better instead of worse. My boundaries were repeatedly ignored in the discussion, however, and that's been addressed privately. If the matter continues here today, I may use other measures to address it then.

[missysedai.livejournal.com]

I guess it depends on the size of the shark and how far you can chuck him.

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

Hand me down the Shark-Repellent Bat-Spray!

[laughingacademy.livejournal.com]

I once told someone that Strictly Ballroom was my favorite Luhrmann film because (1) "Sparkly!" and (2) "The girl lives!"

I don't think Nolan is worse than the average director when it comes to gender issues, but he's really high-profile right now.