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[rm]

Hey, when I say don't be assholes the correct response is not ignoring people's boundaries and/or making DIAF remarks. I am not happy.

Fuck Yeah, Skeksis!

I find the idea of "Things That Are Not Like Guns" weirdly hilarious. Last night Patty and I had a long discussion about to what degree sharks are, or are not, like guns. Sharks are, for the record, not like guns.

HPOA girl likely fake. Some iteration of just that thing shows up every couple of years, and the story is always too perfect -- pretty chick (you side with her), industry people love to hate (Wall Street now, Internet start-ups then), with lots of expected sexism (it could be an after-school special!), culminating with an attack on some Internet phenomenon that annoys the fuck out of a lot of people (Farmville).

The flight attendant story is still real though.

And so is that of the guy who took his bus on a 1,300 mile detour.

Interesting story about the legality of 66 marriage licenses issues to same sex couples in New Mexico in 2004. They stand.

Mexico City same-sex marriages must be recognized as legal throughout Mexico.

And Costa Rica has ruled against a referendum that would take a vote on recognizing same-sex unions. The courts says such a vote would put LGBT at a disadvantage.

Is that your baby? About being mistake for the nanny in multi-racial families.

Patty sent this to me yesterday as "Horrifying Inception Find." There's really little more I can add, but I'll warn you it's a screen-shot of a Craigslist casual encounters ad, the language is NSFW, and it's in the category of dirty, dirty cosplay sex. I share because I care.

Rules for hats flumox hipsters: I don't care if your fedora cost $80, when you're inside, you take it off.

I hate this fucking Jack/Auggie fic. Okay, I've finally got Auggie's voice, and I know where it's going and what is already ridiculously wrong with the whole thing and faily and needs to be fixed. But increasingly, I feel like I can't write this fic without making a mess. Every online conversation I see about Auggie on blogs related to disabiity issues has about six different sides. Which is to say, I don't think it's possible to produce this story without being really offensive to multiple someones.

That said, I'm still beating my head against the thing, because I think the pairing and the story make sense and that it should be possible to tell a good story that isn't faily. So, if you're tuned in to Covert Affairs, and particularly if you're viewing it from a living with disabilities perspective, and have a comment about what they are doing right or wrong with Auggie (aside from the actor not actually being blind, since that's a perfectly reasonable topic for conversation, but one that won't help me solve this story) that you'd like to share, I am so all ears. Aaaaaaaaaaaaargh.

Speaking of Covert Affairs -- how great was this week's episode? Jai suddenly gets interesting and isn't just the bad guy. I don't hate the idea of a possible Jai, Auggie, Annie love triangle (oh god, someone write me that threesome). The gossipy relationship premise of the show is feeling more organic even if it's still too straight for my taste. The women kick ass. And pretty much everything is awesome except for the whole thng with Annie's former beau that I just don't care about at all.

Which brings us to White Collar -- now that was an episode. And Peter is just so effortlessly the boss of Neal, it's kinda hilarious. And I loved the high-class repoman chick. And Neal's look of being nauseated in the face of handling a gun, and pretty much the whole thing which felt like a very New York episode. Much love. I still don't care about Kate though, even if the part of the story about the FAA tapes was actually well done.

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[eumelia.livejournal.com]

I loved that Neal was being all jealous of Sara being noticed by Peter. So cute.

Do all Insurance Reclaiming Investigators carry around batons?! This is the second time I've seen this happen on television with Insurance people on shows revolving around con people.

ETA: Wow, I'm glad I missed the discussion that went on in your previous post. Fuck me.

[missysedai.livejournal.com]

ETA: Wow, I'm glad I missed the discussion that went on in your previous post. Fuck me.

SRSLY.

Damn, rm, you're a more patient soul than I. I'd have had the BanHammer of Pissed Off Skull Crushing out and working PDfuckingQ.

[mangosteen]

Re: The HPOA girl.

I really wanted to believe it... but my spidey sense told me that the lighting was too good.

(Really? A key light? Uh huh.)

[missysedai.livejournal.com]

My husband said that he knew it was fake because of HPOA. No one talks like that in the workplace, he said.

We had A Discussion about that nonsense. *sigh* You'd think he'd know better by now.

[5251962.livejournal.com]

It went from an entirely too long version of "I've got (insert minority) friends, I am not bigoted" to DIAF. I think that's rather telling, personally.

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

He Didn't Really Mean It, he was Just Very, Very Angry.

Hmph!

[firefly124.livejournal.com]

Hey, when I say don't be assholes the correct response is not ignoring people's boundaries and/or making DIAF remarks. I am not happy.

*boggles* I shouldn't be, but yet I'm stunned that a) "don't be assholes" needs saying and b) that this should need saying on top of it.

[yendi]

Sharks are not guns, but sharks with fricking lasers are a little more like guns (or at least like sharks with guns).

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

But sharks with lasers are inherently cooler than guns

[sageautumn.livejournal.com]

*thinks* Crossbows are kinda like guns...

[rm.livejournal.com]

I perhaps need an overall projectile weapons category. Sharks are not projectile weapons, despite fast swimming.

[laughingacademy.livejournal.com]

Re: White Collar, beautiful insurance investigator vs. charming crook -- I'm waiting for someone to allude to The Thomas Crown Affair in-show. (Probably Moz. Speaking of which, HAHAHA Grease reference!)

Possibly relevant to your interests: Inception Director Loves Killing Off Women, at Jezebel.com

[rm.livejournal.com]

I've seen some discussion of that, and I don't necessarily find it as problematic as a lot of people do. For example, The Prestige comes from source material not Nolan's own (although he did choose the project sure) and all directors have obsessions, that usually feel pretty gross because they are obsessions (Baz Luhrmann and Peter Jackson both come through on this point over and over again). While I think the "tragic dead girl drives plot" thing blows, I don't think Nolan's work gets off on or sexualizes killing women, which would be where I would have a problem with things.

I think Nolan, like lots of creators of both genders, view women as disposable items that kick the plot along when shit happens to them. But this is largely an artifact of our making films mostly about men, and therefore the love interests bite it (see: Ianto Jones, dead dead dead) -- in a hteronormative film-making climate, that's a lot of dead chicks.

It sucks, and we need more films about women that aren't women's films, but I don't particularly feel that Nolan deserves singling out on this point or is more creepy than other directors for being a product of the box-office and studio climate.

[alt_universe_me.livejournal.com]

Re: Jack/Auggie

So, I wasn't going to comment on this, since I don't actually watch Covert Affairs, but I googled a little bit and now have a brief introduction to Auggie. I'm just curious what elements of the story could be offensive? I mean, having sex with a person who is blind is not any different from having sex with someone who has full sight in most ways. I've had close relationships (read: sex) with a man who is blind and has mobility issues, as well with a woman who has mobility issues. I didn't see them as "disabled" and I don't really think that Jack would see Auggie that way. I mean, Jack loves all people for themselves in my opinion. He sees the individual, which was how I saw the individuals with which I was involved. And they saw me as an individual and looked past my borderline personality issues. I don't think that there's anything inherently offensive about writing a Jack/Auggie fic.

So, anyways, sorry I can't offer specific Covert Affairs knowledge, but if you want to throw a few lines at me, I'd be more than happy to take a look.

[rm.livejournal.com]

The issue isn't Jack and Auggie hooking up (which is going to be all sorts of smoking hot), the issue is about if I write something more than a PWP at all, which I do reflexively, handling Auggie's blindness, his sentiments anout it, other people's sentiments about it, what type of work he's assigned at the CIA, to what degree the fact that they won't let him into the field is reasonable or not, etc.

[annlarimer.livejournal.com]

What we really need is a gun that fires sharks.

[yarram.livejournal.com]

All I can say about the DIAF thread is... ewww. Way to miss the point of "Derailing for Dummies".

I love my SO deeply, we've been together almost 14 years, but he still does some deeply audist/ableist things despite knowing I have a hearing impairment. I love him _anyway_, but still... some days... *headdesk*. <wry grin>

[browneyedgirl65.livejournal.com]

I hear ya (no pun intended). In some ways I don't think it's *possible* for hearies to shed all audist notions. There is something terribly primally ingrained into the primitive brainstem area about sound.

You have to give up on it after awhile after the eleventy millionth article you see that declares IT'S LOVE OF MUSIC THAT SEPARATES HUMANS FROM ANIMALS!!

*ahem* Yeah, anyway.

Glad I missed this one.

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

Hand me down the Shark-Repellent Bat-Spray!

[brewsternorth.livejournal.com]

I find the idea of "Things That Are Not Like Guns" weirdly hilarious.

I feel it ought to be an icon. Possibly with animation.

[matthewwdaly.livejournal.com]

Jenny was real even if it didn't actually happen, y'know?

Shark : gun :: Aquaman : superhero

[melebeth]

I love Auggie so much that it's a little rediculous ("she couldn't remember the last book she had read") and slowly the rest of the show is growing on me too... except for unnecessary ec boyfriend. Who is unnecessary and very much the gun on the wall. At least, I suppose, they use him, which is something, but I'm already sick of his randomness.

As for Jack/Auggie... I can't wait to read it. Auggie would fit in so well with Torchwood.

[rm.livejournal.com]

"Even I have standards."

Auggie is AWESOME and the rest of the show is totally sucking less. You know, except for the major plot element we both loathe.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

I've sees that Motherlode article previously - it's the circles that overlap in my world, having adopted transracially - and more than once, I've shaken my head both in relief and WTF that it hasn't happened to me yet.

(Oh, I've been called the grandmother once, though. Thanks.)

The duality in our case? We're the right race for our roles. He's brown, I'm not. The fact that a POC could have a child lighter than they are can only mean one thing - they're getting paid, and it's not theirs. *eyeroll* Um, not so much.

I point people to these resources:

Raising Katie

Kip Fulbeck's Hapa Project (And he has a new project out right now that's absolutely lovely.)

And I'm as understanding as I can be.

[liminalia.livejournal.com]

I saw the Hapa Project at Chicago's Field Museum! It was beautiful/funny/thought-provoking/awesome.

[contrarywise]

The flight attendant thing keeps getting better. Here's a link to a news story from Hong Kong with a computer-animated retelling of the tale that's more than a little hilarious - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBvakgglAPM (Link courtesy of the always-fabulous Stephen Fry via Twitter.)

Having watched that, I'm now totally convinced that your speculation about a book or movie deal based on his story is pretty much inevitable.

[kshandra]

Those are the same folks who did the Tiger Woods car crash animation, aren't they?

[popfiend.livejournal.com]

The former beau thing on Covert Affairs just strikes me as a way to create this series long mystery which isn't as necessary to this show as it is to White Collar especially since the main character is oblivious to it. And I suspect the payoff won't be worth it.

Still loving Auggie. And I love the bit in the bar where Allie says that there's going to be a girl there before she gets past the bar...and there is.

And the Peter/Neal dynamic this season is really interesting. They are both driven together and pulled apart by the very same forces/investigations/methods. And I didn't see the twist with the bad guy coming at all. That was fun.

[rm.livejournal.com]

I completely love how much tail Auggie gets and his attitude about it. And that whole gossipy take-down of Jai's family history? WOAH!

[sunhawk.livejournal.com]

Re: PSA I might think about a three strikes policy for guys like that if I were you, I think you've been very generous giving him so much rope to hang himself with *chuckle*

[rm.livejournal.com]

delchi is someone I know F2F, and I had hoped the ongoing nature of the discussion meant things would get better not worse, although that was clearly not the case. I have discussed my feelings as regards to my off-line interaction with him privately, and will use other measures if necessary to address the matter online. I prefer not to freeze threads or ban people, and am hoping the conversation will wind down on its own.

I'll take another look at it tonight and see how things are going.

[browneyedgirl65.livejournal.com]

Thanks, guys. After reading your comments and googling up Covert Affairs, now I'm going to have to watch this show.

Pbbbt.

[pantryslut.livejournal.com]

The multiracial family story was nice, if only the tip of the iceberg in some ways. Thanks for the link.

[newsbean.livejournal.com]

Yes, it makes me happy that they were so nonchalant about it.

[msp-hacker.livejournal.com]

Rules for hats flumox hipsters: I don't care if your fedora cost $80, when you're inside, you take it off.

I mostly follow hat etiquette, but am curious to know your opinion on wearing hats inside stores. Since it's a public place where human interaction is minimal, I think it would still be polite to wear a hat.

[eandh99.livejournal.com]

You might want to take a look at the RTD interview at Afterelton.com. Two highlights: the Rex/Esther casting call was real and we are getting the pedophile character, and RTD thinks "gayness equals death" is hilarious, specifically as it refers to the "Captain Jack Harkness" episode from series 1.

[ophymirage.livejournal.com]

I am looking at that now, and crying. in a metaphorical way, since I'm at work.

[heavenscalyx.livejournal.com]

I don't care if your fedora cost $80, when you're inside, you take it off.

FUCK YES THIS EXACTLY.

How I know I was a butch from early childhood: whenever I went indoors, I took my hat off. I'm a little casual these days about supermarkets and other large stores (in terms of leaving the hat on), but I always take my hat off in other circumstances.

Don't like holding the hat in your hand? Then get a cap you can fold into a pocket or an outback hat with a string to hold it on in high wind. Don't buy the $80 fedora. Somehow, our fathers and grandfathers and great-grandfathers managed to take off their hats politely and hold them in their hands or put them on hatracks JUST FINE.

Whenever I see a kid wearing a baseball cap in one of my wife's classes (I occasionally do biologically-related guest lectures for her classes), I get enraged. It's SO RUDE.

*froth*

[marcmagus]

Of course, hat racks were much more ubiquitous.

[heron61.livejournal.com]

Covert Affairs continues to be great, and I also loved what they did with Jai in this episode. I also had an interesting thought regarding the leak to the reporter - it seems obvious that the leak is someone we've seen a lot, that pretty much leaves Arthur, Joan, Jai, and Auggie. They've pretty much ruled out Arthur, and of the remaining three, last night I realized that I now have an idea about Joan and Jai's motivations, but we really know remarkably little about Auggie. He's enough of a mystery that I'm now fairly certain that he's the leak. I can also really see why writing Auggie would be difficult

And pretty much everything is awesome except for the whole thng with Annie's former beau that I just don't care about at all.

I liked how Annie was willing to use that relationship to get to Mcauley, but otherwise, that relationship is seriously uninteresting.

[alba17.livejournal.com]

I have a couple of friends who've been asked if they were their biological children's nanny. *shakes head*