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Hey, when I say don't be assholes the correct response is not ignoring people's boundaries and/or making DIAF remarks. I am not happy.

Fuck Yeah, Skeksis!

I find the idea of "Things That Are Not Like Guns" weirdly hilarious. Last night Patty and I had a long discussion about to what degree sharks are, or are not, like guns. Sharks are, for the record, not like guns.

HPOA girl likely fake. Some iteration of just that thing shows up every couple of years, and the story is always too perfect -- pretty chick (you side with her), industry people love to hate (Wall Street now, Internet start-ups then), with lots of expected sexism (it could be an after-school special!), culminating with an attack on some Internet phenomenon that annoys the fuck out of a lot of people (Farmville).

The flight attendant story is still real though.

And so is that of the guy who took his bus on a 1,300 mile detour.

Interesting story about the legality of 66 marriage licenses issues to same sex couples in New Mexico in 2004. They stand.

Mexico City same-sex marriages must be recognized as legal throughout Mexico.

And Costa Rica has ruled against a referendum that would take a vote on recognizing same-sex unions. The courts says such a vote would put LGBT at a disadvantage.

Is that your baby? About being mistake for the nanny in multi-racial families.

Patty sent this to me yesterday as "Horrifying Inception Find." There's really little more I can add, but I'll warn you it's a screen-shot of a Craigslist casual encounters ad, the language is NSFW, and it's in the category of dirty, dirty cosplay sex. I share because I care.

Rules for hats flumox hipsters: I don't care if your fedora cost $80, when you're inside, you take it off.

I hate this fucking Jack/Auggie fic. Okay, I've finally got Auggie's voice, and I know where it's going and what is already ridiculously wrong with the whole thing and faily and needs to be fixed. But increasingly, I feel like I can't write this fic without making a mess. Every online conversation I see about Auggie on blogs related to disabiity issues has about six different sides. Which is to say, I don't think it's possible to produce this story without being really offensive to multiple someones.

That said, I'm still beating my head against the thing, because I think the pairing and the story make sense and that it should be possible to tell a good story that isn't faily. So, if you're tuned in to Covert Affairs, and particularly if you're viewing it from a living with disabilities perspective, and have a comment about what they are doing right or wrong with Auggie (aside from the actor not actually being blind, since that's a perfectly reasonable topic for conversation, but one that won't help me solve this story) that you'd like to share, I am so all ears. Aaaaaaaaaaaaargh.

Speaking of Covert Affairs -- how great was this week's episode? Jai suddenly gets interesting and isn't just the bad guy. I don't hate the idea of a possible Jai, Auggie, Annie love triangle (oh god, someone write me that threesome). The gossipy relationship premise of the show is feeling more organic even if it's still too straight for my taste. The women kick ass. And pretty much everything is awesome except for the whole thng with Annie's former beau that I just don't care about at all.

Which brings us to White Collar -- now that was an episode. And Peter is just so effortlessly the boss of Neal, it's kinda hilarious. And I loved the high-class repoman chick. And Neal's look of being nauseated in the face of handling a gun, and pretty much the whole thing which felt like a very New York episode. Much love. I still don't care about Kate though, even if the part of the story about the FAA tapes was actually well done.

Comments

[heavenscalyx.livejournal.com]

I don't care if your fedora cost $80, when you're inside, you take it off.

FUCK YES THIS EXACTLY.

How I know I was a butch from early childhood: whenever I went indoors, I took my hat off. I'm a little casual these days about supermarkets and other large stores (in terms of leaving the hat on), but I always take my hat off in other circumstances.

Don't like holding the hat in your hand? Then get a cap you can fold into a pocket or an outback hat with a string to hold it on in high wind. Don't buy the $80 fedora. Somehow, our fathers and grandfathers and great-grandfathers managed to take off their hats politely and hold them in their hands or put them on hatracks JUST FINE.

Whenever I see a kid wearing a baseball cap in one of my wife's classes (I occasionally do biologically-related guest lectures for her classes), I get enraged. It's SO RUDE.

*froth*

[marcmagus]

Of course, hat racks were much more ubiquitous.

[brewsternorth.livejournal.com]

This also true, though I used the corner of a chair-back to hold a baseball-cap I was wearing recently. (I'm not a habitual ballcap-wearer, though.)

[estoile.livejournal.com]

Umm ... If I may, and with no intent to be impolite -- you're certainly entitled to your rage -- there are reasons other than lack of manners for wearing hats indoors.

My son is high-functioning autistic -- chances are if you saw him in a class, you'd have no idea of this. He wears a baseball cap pretty much constantly (and a beanie the rest of the time), and has done for many years. It's a sensory thing: it limits his visual field in overstimulating situations, keeps his hair out of his face, and provides a reassuring feeling of pressure. It also allows him to hide his face as needed. In short, it helps him cope. Is it impolite to wear his hat indoors? Undoubtedly. Is it necessary? Also undoubtedly.

The origins of behaviour are not always apparent.

[heavenscalyx.livejournal.com]

This is true, and not something that had occurred me, so I'm sorry for the generalized rant. I learned to identify the hat-wearing in a set of classes at one particular school as one symptom of a disease of disrespect among a fraternity-shirt-wearing, texting, laptop-using clique. While I have noticed similar behavior in similarly-attired young men at other schools, I shouldn't generalize so much.

I will have something else to consider re hat-wearing behavior in future. Thank you for a different point of view.

[estoile.livejournal.com]

I know just the sort of disrespectful behaviour you mean, and I do understand how infuriating it can be. My sympathies to you and to your wife for having to deal with such attitudes.

Thank you for listening to, and hearing, another perspective.

[phonoirlex.livejournal.com]

Yes, this. I've been known to wear hats indoors before and during migraines, when overhead lights become too painful. Sometimes, it's that or try to walk around with my eyes closed.

I've also known folks using dilating drops to wear both hats and sunglasses indoors.

Sometimes, it's necessary.

[featherofeeling.livejournal.com]

Somehow, our fathers and grandfathers and great-grandfathers managed to take off their hats politely and hold them in their hands or put them on hatracks JUST FINE.

Well, even in the WWII era, this might not have been as common as we think. My grandparents often told the story of the day they met. My grandmother was a Luxembourger working as a secretary for the billeting office of American soldiers in Luxembourg City. She knew that she liked my grandfather right away, when, unlike the majority of soldiers who passed through that office, he took off his hat when he came in and didn't talk to her with his hands in his pockets. :)

(Obviously with the exception of hats that serve a function other than that of fashion statement. Thanks to the abovethread posters for pointing that out.)