For what it's worth, I completely failed to express nuance in my comment, and I am totally sorry.
I'm genderqueer myself. I don't see much point to it, and yet I live in the world, so I have to get all "girled up", as it were, for interviews and weddings and the like, and it feels weird and awkward. Same as when I get "guyed up", &c, to go to work. I get whole times when I'd rather wear a suit than a dress, and yet I'm going to a wedding (or whatever), and I'd really rather not hear fifteen people say "It'd be so hot for you to wear a suit!", like I'm dressing up for hotness.
(Hello, personal crap.)
Mostly, I was just attempting to emphasise what others had phrased better -- that it is the opera and yay, and life is short and thus, and that weight should be thrown towards experiencing life versus conforming gender-wise, if your cost/benefit analysis susses it out thus.
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I'm genderqueer myself. I don't see much point to it, and yet I live in the world, so I have to get all "girled up", as it were, for interviews and weddings and the like, and it feels weird and awkward. Same as when I get "guyed up", &c, to go to work. I get whole times when I'd rather wear a suit than a dress, and yet I'm going to a wedding (or whatever), and I'd really rather not hear fifteen people say "It'd be so hot for you to wear a suit!", like I'm dressing up for hotness.
(Hello, personal crap.)
Mostly, I was just attempting to emphasise what others had phrased better -- that it is the opera and yay, and life is short and thus, and that weight should be thrown towards experiencing life versus conforming gender-wise, if your cost/benefit analysis susses it out thus.
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