I am sorry my commentary was not better put; I have friends who do not comply with gender standards of dress (mostly male-to-female, as opposed to you who dress as either female or male). When I suggested you dress as what makes you comfortable, I meant it literally: you are in the best position to know your safety vs. your need to express yourself. This is why I also included the suggestions that would allow you feminize your wardrobe at the office, but which could allow you to move to men's dress wear when you got to the Opera--pleasing both yourself and others.
Its freaking dangerous to violate gender norms in America where you speak the language; I can only imagine what its like in a foreign place where you do not. As much as I'd like to say "wear what you want, to hell with the rest," that's simply not an option if you want to remain bodily sound and unmolested. Turns out, people all over the world are threatened by gender non-conformity, and uniformly seem to respond negatively when they feel threatened.
So, again, sorry I wasn't more clear: I want you safe and happy (roughly in that order).
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Date: 2010-11-12 05:42 pm (UTC)Its freaking dangerous to violate gender norms in America where you speak the language; I can only imagine what its like in a foreign place where you do not. As much as I'd like to say "wear what you want, to hell with the rest," that's simply not an option if you want to remain bodily sound and unmolested. Turns out, people all over the world are threatened by gender non-conformity, and uniformly seem to respond negatively when they feel threatened.
So, again, sorry I wasn't more clear: I want you safe and happy (roughly in that order).