sundries, Christmas edition

[rm]

Right now the weather says the severe weather won't start until about 3pm here. If things aren't too backed up in the morning, I have hope I will get out and get to Patty.

Holiday gifts included Final Draft, marzipan, and some cool clothes.

The Tron kinkmeme is hilarious. It's more prompts and people agreeing with prompts than stories right now, but what people want seems to fall into a few categories:

- all non-con all the time (see: Clu/Tron)
- Alan has guilt (about whichever character they have him sleeping with this time)
- Daddy issues (it's not just the incest requests; it's also in a lot of the Alan requests, and in the Quorra/Flynn requests)
- Crack (largely involving the MP3s (played by Daft Punk)).

Weird, weird shit. V. funny, if you're kinda strange like me.

Here is another excellent example of the world I grew up in/around and perhaps I should just point to it forever more when people say "why do you feel inadequate?" People like that were normal. If you weren't them, if was your fault. I'm getting better, but it's still hard work.

Okay, time to sleep. I have to get up early and hope the weather cooperates.

Comments

[gairid.livejournal.com]

Just wanted to say Happy Holidays to you and to Patty and be careful with the upcoming storm. My daughter lives in Queens, my dad and brother in Stamford CT, so I am hyper aware of weather in the NY metro area ---if it's bad, screw your flight---safety first!

[i-amthecosmos.livejournal.com]

Just chiming in to say that I'm suddenly really glad that the only famous-y people my high school produced when I was there was a hair metal band groupie and a Gallery centerfold. I couldn't deal with genetically engineered brainy debs. Yay for being a hillbilly from Alabama!

[graene.livejournal.com]

Yes, that world. *sigh* Did I ever tell you when Kaye 'slipped' and excused my mom's disappointment in me not being all that for being so severe because of what some gypsy tarot reader in London said? I never got straight if this was before I was born or just after mom's breast cancer, and mom denied it firmly and then watched me with a very odd look for a good hour. Family, huh?

When I happened

[newwaytowrite.livejournal.com]

across this article...I immediately thought of you. You ARE enough.

[soukup.livejournal.com]

That person cannot possibly exist. It would be too miserable. I'm not at all surprised she's compared to a fictional character; she reads like one.

[malle-babbe.livejournal.com]

She reads like a highly unrealistic fictious character.

[elusis.livejournal.com]

Mary Sue incarnate. I bet her eyes change color.

[i-amthecosmos.livejournal.com]

Ha, I love this comment!

[malle-babbe.livejournal.com]

But she needs something really tragic in her backstory. Something involving Orcs or DeathEaters.

Still, she has done something with her life, even if it was just following the script laid out for her.

[i-amthecosmos.livejournal.com]

Yeah, but who thinks this might lead to her having a rebellious period when she's forty? Like, she has the required lifestyle, amount of kids, and husband-and like suddenly she goes on drinking binges and has affairs with the help. Crazy rich lady syndrome.

Or instead, she'll just disappear into a shell of prescription painkillers and vauge physical ailments, like Southern upper class women tend to do. It's a traditional cover for years of smothered feelings and disappointment. Either of these seems likely.

[malle-babbe.livejournal.com]

Don't forget some sort of severe reaction when Hubby is partially responsible for whatever economic collapse happens 40 years from now. Not towards possibly having to live on less, but having a mental BSOD at the realization that doing every "right" didn't protect her from the random tragedy that can hit anyone and everyone.

Totally hear you on the feeling "inadequate" front, rm. Folks tell me I'm smart, but I never took calculus, haven't been playing the cello since I could sit up, didn't get into a magnet school that nearly everyone I knew got into, and had a mild nervous breakdown/case of mono from hell that led me to drop out of a major that was herd to get into. I quit, which one isn't "supposed" to do, but I am happy in a career I love, which isn't "supposed" happen to quitters.

Needless to say, if I was bullshat on those two things, what other things have I been mislead about in my life?

[xo-kizzy-xo.livejournal.com]

Re the debutante: They littered my world too. They didn't have quite the pedigree of that young woman because my school was considered second tier, but they were there, nevertheless. You're right, it's still a work in progress.

[hippypaul.livejournal.com]

You have to love the photo of her mother holding her leash - err - dress - that is.

[malle-babbe.livejournal.com]

It is a telling gesture, for sure. I gather that the young woman is someone who has had very high expectations placed on her most of her life, and while that can serve as way of inspiring achievement, it can be really confining and panic-inducing as well.

[adelheid-p.livejournal.com]

What you don't realize is that these "kids" aren't happy, they do this to please their parents. They aren't able to be who they are. They are and will be cookie cutter copies of the previous generation. You are you, genuinely, through and through. And what's more, you have been able to grow your creative wings. I'd argue it's more than enough. What you have is better.

[gement.livejournal.com]

I'd say most people "realize" that. There's awareness and there's grokking. The grokking is very hard, especially when one is raised in the same bubble as these extraordinary hothouse children.

Hell, I was raised a million miles away from that bubble and I still feel Geek Inadequacy because I do not have the full set of in-depth hobbies that a dozen of my friends have in total. One builds robots, one costumes like a mad thing, one composes, one does kink education...

And I look up from my writing and think, "Man, why can't I be accomplished like those* people?" I can't imagine what it would be like with actual external pressure to do so.

* By which I mean all of them. At once. Plus what I'm doing.

[adelheid-p.livejournal.com]

My hope is an outside affirmation will help with the grokking part. I think we all have a sense of not being "good" enough in some way or another. I think the kindest thing we can do for one another is provide affirmation that the other is good enough. I'm sure you are accomplished in your own way.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

The only thing I'm envious of in her life (apart from the money, wouldn't we all like to have gobs of money?) is the Vionnet dress. I love Vionnet. The gold wouldn't suit me, though.

[canaana.livejournal.com]

On the flipside, I grew up in a world where interests in history and politics, winning prizes (unless they were related to sports) and aiming for the debate team made you more inadequate, not less. And yet, same lingering need for perfection in oneself. I suppose a variety of factors are involved.

[shiverelectric]

Ah, the Tron kinkmeme, the stories seem to be coming faster since the first time I found the meme, and so far it is all so delicious, I'm even tempted to try my hand at a fill or two, but it's a bit intimidating to try and write anything on the same caliber as some of the amazing fills there are. I'll prolly get over it soon and just go for it, it's just a matter of which holds my muse's attention more, Tron or Holmes.