I was in a sorority in college, Alpha Theta Beta, a regional founded at Hofstra. We were small and by most expectations of such things, strange -- I was one of several openly queer women, many members were non-white (the president one year was a Saudi national, the president another, was Hawaiian), one girl was in a wheelchair (she'd bend down and rip off the footrest and brandish at guys who were rude at frat parties). And while other houses talked shit about us, and we may have cared, changing or hiding what we were was never in the game plan of our reaction to it.
I can't say I learnt much from sorority life. It's not where I found friends for life or developed leadership skills. I did not learn to be pretty or popular, nor did I network for a future career. What I did learn was that tradition and ritual matter if you choose for it to and that there were, in fact, practical applications to the odd sorts of self-discipline I harboured. Ultimately, it made me feel powerful because I was never cowed, not by exercises designed to make pledges uneasy and not by my school's Greek system that had no respect for us. I remember a girl named Soo Bang, who didn't get a bid from any other house, several of which later admitted in earshot of me, that it was because of her name.
And so, the following utterly enrages me, not just because it's wrong, but because I swam upstream in the Greek system, as did AOB, and while it didn't change my life, you can't say I got less out of it for all that.
Worried that a negative stereotype of the sorority was contributing to a decline in membership that had left its Greek-columned house here half empty, Delta Zeta’s national officers interviewed 35 DePauw members in November, quizzing them about their dedication to recruitment. They judged 23 of the women insufficiently committed and later told them to vacate the sorority house.
The 23 members included every woman who was overweight. They also included the only black, Korean and Vietnamese members. The dozen students allowed to stay were slender and popular with fraternity men — conventionally pretty women the sorority hoped could attract new recruits. Six of the 12 were so infuriated they quit.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/02/25/education/25sorority.html