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Apr. 23rd, 2008 08:26 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rmSorry, new and improved version. I left out some important options.
I realize this is entirely non-scientific and because LJ skews towards women even more unscientific for that. But I tend to think these little exercises still have their uses and least when it comes to reminding people about privilege (or I may turn out to be totally wrong).
ETA:
to answer some frequent questions:
1. Unwanted contact from a person you are in a relationship with should be read as a sexual overture (possibly entirely appropriate but you weren't in the mood) was made that you rejected, BUT the rejection was then not heeded in a fashion that you feel harmed you/violated your person/rights.
2. I know, I left out a choice for boss/coworker/clergy member/teacher/professional relationship/person in position of authority -- please put it in the acquaintance category. This was noticed too late to redo the poll and I'll note it when I do the results summary post.
3. If you are trans, genderqueer, etc. and want to answer in more than one category based on how you were presenting at the time, that's fine.
4. The way LJ shows the answers to this isn't actually that statistically interesting to what I'm trying to capture, and I will eventually make a post about some other things I'm seeing somewhat buried in the numbers.
5. Yes, your answers are viewable to everyone. There's a point to that too that will be discussed later as well.
6. Feel free to link to this in your own journal.
7. THANK YOU.
[Poll #1175760]
I realize this is entirely non-scientific and because LJ skews towards women even more unscientific for that. But I tend to think these little exercises still have their uses and least when it comes to reminding people about privilege (or I may turn out to be totally wrong).
ETA:
to answer some frequent questions:
1. Unwanted contact from a person you are in a relationship with should be read as a sexual overture (possibly entirely appropriate but you weren't in the mood) was made that you rejected, BUT the rejection was then not heeded in a fashion that you feel harmed you/violated your person/rights.
2. I know, I left out a choice for boss/coworker/clergy member/teacher/professional relationship/person in position of authority -- please put it in the acquaintance category. This was noticed too late to redo the poll and I'll note it when I do the results summary post.
3. If you are trans, genderqueer, etc. and want to answer in more than one category based on how you were presenting at the time, that's fine.
4. The way LJ shows the answers to this isn't actually that statistically interesting to what I'm trying to capture, and I will eventually make a post about some other things I'm seeing somewhat buried in the numbers.
5. Yes, your answers are viewable to everyone. There's a point to that too that will be discussed later as well.
6. Feel free to link to this in your own journal.
7. THANK YOU.
[Poll #1175760]
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Date: 2008-04-23 08:22 pm (UTC)I know I have been fortunate, because while it has scarred me in little bits here and there, it has never seriously damaged me.
This has made me think of my own privilege.
So I hope the original fellow with his ill-advised post on boobs (to which I am sympathetic; I am in London and just went to Rigby & Peller, arguably the world's best lingerie shop, for a fitting in which they told me that they do not have anything in stock for breasts as disproportionately large as mine and I would have to have something custom-altered; I'm used to being a bit of a freak, in short, and having people ask if they can touch them etc., though I admit I teared up in the fitting room after the fitter left just now because I'd really hoped she'd say I was more normal than I'd thought...) can understand his own privilege in this matter.
I'd probably let him touch my boobs.
But there are so many loaded conditions behind that "probably" that I do not even know how to explain...
So thank you for helping me think them through enough to perhaps someday explain them. I'm understanding, as I grow older, that most of the bad things humans do are born of a lack of understanding. The more of us who are equipped to explain ourselves, the fewer opportunities there are for painful and possibly fatal misunderstandings to arise.