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While there are a hundred reasons why straight people openly specifying that they are straight and also support the rights of GBLTQ people to marry their partners is a useful thing, think of the power of this:

Just saying that you support it. Without mentioning your own damn orientation.

Because I know it's not always or even often distancing when someone says, "I'm straight but I support gay rights," but trust me, trust me, trust me, trust me, when I tell you that's what it can feel like from over here.

Just try saying it without qualification. Picture _that_ as an LJ meme. You know?

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[winterknight.livejournal.com]

You can read my answer above, for one thing. For another, I'm just telling you that saying, "I'm straight and I support same-sex marriage," is still enforcing the idea that there's some kind of difference between straights and queers. You can do two things. You can say to people, "Oh, yes, but I'm human and I think they're human." Or, you can say, "I'm with them." I think the reason there's so many bumps in the road; so many arguments are still founded on the same perception of privilege that we're trying to fight in the first place. So, keep drawing that line, or work on making that line irrelevant. Your choice. But at least think about what comes out of your mouth or off your fingers.

One thing that bothers me a whole lot right now is that when I bring this up, the response is, "Well, don't you need us?" or "Isn't it okay because it's for your benefit?" Because, no, it's not. Someone on the other side of the line people keep drawing with their memes and bumper stickers is saying, "that's insulting or painful to me" and the response is, "But it's for you!" Think about that.

[these-3-remain.livejournal.com]

Think about that.

Okay - I am and I will. Knowing now that things I have said could/did hurt other people - I'll try to be more careful.

[winterknight.livejournal.com]

Thank you. <3

[these-3-remain.livejournal.com]

Thank you for 'splaining it to me!