*sigh*

[rm]

Haven't heard from Patty. Don't know when I will hear from Patty. She mailed a letter last Saturday, so that should come sometime in the week, but right now I have no idea when she'll be able to get online again or send another letter and since I can't send letters to her, she can't hear from me unless she can get on, and it's ridculously frustrating to me not to be able to tell her how awesome I think she is.

This is the dig where we thought we would have the easiest and most frequent ability to communicate and so far it has turned out exactly the opposite.

Comments

[herself_nyc]

How frustrating, I'm sorry.

[nekosensei.livejournal.com]

My husband spent 8 weeks in Japan, and it was hard not being able to see him. That, and it was difficult to communicate because of the time difference. When he would be getting up in the morning, I would be going to bed and vice versa. I ended up staying awake until late some evenings to talk to him. I understand what you must be going through. I hope you hear from Patty soon.

*hugs*

[brightflashes.livejournal.com]

: ( Hoping for speedy connection between you and Patty.

[ithinkitisayit.livejournal.com]

Is she an archaeologist? If so, that is *so* cool! How much schooling did she need? Was it mostly sociology classes?

[rm.livejournal.com]

She's getting her PhD in archaeology now. She's in her third year. The average time for completion is 7 years. So a lot of schooling.

In terms of classes, better she address it when she returns. But there's a great deal of hard science and technique issues involved, as well as ethics and then the stuff related to the actual analysis which I suppose wold be more sociological in nature, although she might object to the term -- I'm not sure. I'm still learning about it through her. She did have one really cool class last semester looking at techniques of production of the areas she studies so she was actually trying to produce jewelry the way folks in her area of study did.

[marzipan-pig.livejournal.com]

Oh wow, the jewelry thing is amazing. What did she end up making?

[rm.livejournal.com]

Well she's been studying bangles and status, so she looked at making some bangles. Turned out to be pretty intereesting stuff in terms of getting them just so.

[lolliejean.livejournal.com]

It's hard isn't it? Neil and I have times like that as well depending on where he's working. I find myself in a sort of constant anticipatory anxious state until we connect and I know that everything is all right. I hope you hear something soon.

[mecurtin.livejournal.com]

Count me in as one who would be deeeeeeply fascinated by anything you could post from her about where she is and what she's doing. It's probably warm there, too.

[mobobocita.livejournal.com]

*hug* I'm certain you can pour it into a letter that she can have when she gets home.

[bodlon.livejournal.com]

I hope she has an opportunity to contact you. To me, that sort of distance would feel awful and scary. I'd worry a lot. Then again, maybe it's something one gets used to after a while.

In any case, fingers crossed and sympathies all around.

[rm.livejournal.com]

You know, in some ways it's very easy. Patty went on a dig less than a month after we first started dating (during said dig my then roommate decided to move to China and so I asked her to move in with me). This has always been a default facet of our lives together and who she is, and so it's absolutely what I signed up for. And, ad and and, there are some things that are great about it -- we get to keep having NRE with each other, and we don't have to work as hard as other couples who are in each other's pockets the way we are to keep developing as seperate people too.

Once she's at a site, and I've heard from her, I don't tend to worry about her, and we have managed that. But emotionally, to exist with that longing and various other soppy emotions without getting positive feedback for it -- that's an act of faith. I think we're the stronger for it, but every day is not necessarily a day I'm happy and full of certitude.

This dig is proving unique because of my inability to send her postal letters and the lack of Internet schedule. Additionally, this is the first winter-time dig she's gone on. Good for her, as she's even worse with the cold than I am, but it's very strange to be hunkering down in the dark season without her.

[don-negro.livejournal.com]

allea and I, when we were dating, back before most of the modern world was invented, frequently used the world's worst email systems to commuicate (because long distance telephone calls cost roughly $0.35 a minute) Every time something bad happened (which is to say, frequently) I'd mention how happy I was that we weren't courting 100 years previously, where you might well get a letter every day, but any exchange of ideas almost always took the better part of a year. Trying to be in love with someone while dealing with a 12 month lag sounds like absolute hell to me, but people did it because love is what it is and will not be denied.

I have no reason to tell most people that story, but I thought you might appreciate it.

Tt's ridiculously frustrating

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

I'm sure she knows, but that's not the same as being able to tell her.:(