sundries

[rm]

Oh there are new Torchwood promo pictures in Gay Times, and they are happy-making. If you care, you've probably already seen them.

I've had a couple of conversations that have almost been awful but have turned out well in the end about how to be a good LGBTQ ally over the last couple of days. I've never had to do that before in the "no, you don't get a cookie" and "please don't police our emotional responses to discrimination" sense. Interesting stuff which leads me to say if I've ever been the person who needed the wack with the clue-by-four when it comes to stuff about being anti-racist and trying to be an ally to PoC: thank you for your patience (and sorry that you needed it). I have a whole new perspective now. This shit wore me down in about ten minutes. Oh my god. (But seriously, props to the people I had those LGBTQ conversations with.)

I'm working about a thing about prop 8, that's also very much about female identity/autonomy/signifiers of adulthood/ownership. I'm not sure if it's going to come together or not. I want it to, I'm really happy with the idea of it, but it's probably the most convoluted interlacing of topics I've tried I a while.

My gorgeous white gown will be here probably Friday. But I probably won't be wearing it out this weekend, as I should wear suit to Duchess thing.

Patty is awesome. She will also be home Monday.

I've had 4 hours of sleep thanks to work gone wrong. I don't even want to discuss the condition I'm in right now.

No specific garden updates, but everything is continuing to do well. Actually, I'm realizing it's wednesday and 3pm, I should actually go buy the other planned plants.

Oh yes, and I forgot to mention, laurab1 made fanart for my TW fic "Because Men Once Went West." Snazzy.

Did you all know there is a sequel to The Vintner's Luck coming out? I've pre-ordered my copy.

Comments

[lefaym.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I've been struggling with well-meaning would-be allies recently too -- so many just don't GET that "marriage by another name" is not good enough, and it's complicated by the fact that I know that there are blind spots in my own ally work, that my het privilege means that there are probably times I act like an arsehole even though I don't mean to. But in the end, I'm just like, "Well, there are an awful lot of people in same sex relationships out there who DO say that the language is important, whose experiences show that seperate but equal is NOT equality, and it's not up to straight people to question that experience in any way." I'm not sure how well it gets through though. *sigh*

And yes, much squee on the Torchwood front.

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

If Civil Unions are just as good as legal marriage,then why don't straight people take that option and leave legal marriage to the LGBTQ people?
The straight people think civil unions are a good thing. LGBTQ think legal marriage is a good thing. Everybody would be happy!

[lefaym.livejournal.com]

Ha, yes, very good point!

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

Political debate is Canada's year round national sport!

[lefaym.livejournal.com]

I just wish that this wasn't a matter for debate at all. :(

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

In Canada, it isn't. Anymore. Coming soon to a Republic near you.

[lefaym.livejournal.com]

In Australia, the debate keeps getting swept under the table -- people are barely even talking about it. I keep hoping that events in the US will wake my country up, but no luck yet... :(

[stardragonca.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm sorry! I somehow thought you were in the U.S.(Because you know rm,I guess. Stupid Dragon is stupid.")
Coming soon to a Constitutional Monarchy near you!

[lefaym.livejournal.com]

Lol, no worries! I try to keep abreast of US politics, so it can create the impression that I actually live there. :P