Well, this is a disaster.

[rm]

I joke, a lot, that no one wants to be famous or successful because they're well-adjusted. "None of us, you know, got enough love in our childhoods," I say.

I just figured out why the whole fucking marriage equality makes me so completely aggravated and stressed despite the fact that I'm actually pretty conflicted on the role marriage has both in gay culture and in turning couples of any type from "people in love" into "people obsessed with shoulds." (Obviously this whole mess doesn't do poly and plural marriages any favors either, since one of the main arguments seems to be "we're just gay, we don't fuck dogs or have lots of wives" -- which hello, is two types of totally different Not Okay Statements to Have to Make rolled into one asinine sentence).

I should have been done losing popularity contests in eighth grade. We all should have been done holding in eight grade.

Fuck you, Maine

Fuck you, bigots.

I don't want to catastrophize here, but the Maine situation is scary. Because it allows the bigots to think they have momentum, to think they are right, to think that we are abominations. That's one of those very funny words until it's applied to you.

I'm very scared of the implications of this. I know what anti-gay violence looks like first hand, and I am very concerned we're about to have a lot of it, and not just in Maine. I'm very concerned about what happens after the Obama years, when the backlash puts the bigots back in office right at the top. I'm very scared of the hate crimes law getting repealed; of my gay friends who have been able to marry being in danger because they are down on government paper as officially gay.

If you think I'm paranoid, think back to most of the events leading into and happening during the Bush administration. Right, now if you had called any of that shit back during the Clinton years, people would have said you were paranoid and worse. Yeah... well.... shit.

Comments

[cozzene.livejournal.com]

Perhaps someone will link to it--my Google-greatness is failing me right now--but I think that's part of the premise of the court case that has been filed that may go to the Supreme Court.

[rm.livejournal.com]

It's a case most people expect to fail. And honestly we're better off with the Supreme Court not taking it up than taking it and making an anti-gay ruling that it will take decades to undo.

[cozzene.livejournal.com]

I'm pretty optimistic after reading a lot about the attorneys as well as their argument. The lead attorney is a pitbull when it comes to fighting to keep gov't out of people's lives. He also seems to have quite the personal history of defending the underdog.

[l33tminion]

we're better off with the Supreme Court not taking it up than taking it and making an anti-gay ruling that it will take decades to undo

While I agree that it's possible a gay-marriage case reaching the court now would lead to the court ruling against, I don't necessarily buy that would slow overall progress more than not pushing such a case in the first place. I'm certainly not confident enough to tell someone who wants to be a plaintiff in such a case to not pursue every legal recourse available to them.