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[rm]

Thank you to everyone who helped out britgeekgrrl earlier today. You helped to take her mind off on a practical worry in a terrible time.

Unfortunately, her husband, dancingshaman, passed away earlier this evening. Please keep them in your thoughts.

And please in your own lives, say what you have to say, and live how you need to live. It may be a too often repeated sentiment, but stuff like this brings home, at least to me that some things shouldn't be procrastinated.

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[iamzulma.livejournal.com]

gawd, that is so sad. my heart is heavy now, though i do not know these people. :(

what was your last sentence in regards to?

[rm.livejournal.com]

Just... life is finite, sometimes more finite that we anticipate. Despite being on a medium about communications, all day long I feel like I read dozens of posts here about people being afraid to speak their truth, or avoiding conflict or being embarrassed by their emotions. All those things are of course fine. I struggle with them all the time in all sorts of wacky ways myself, but as trite as it may be, events like this (Johanna and I are almost the exact same age), always strike me as a good time to remind people that some stuff shouldn't be procrastinated.

[iamzulma.livejournal.com]

you know, i love the way you write and express yourself. thank you for taking the time to explain what you meant, and for enlightening me. it's what i need to remind myself of, too.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Thanks, and thanks for making me be clearer, which as wrapped up as I get in my own head, is often a push I need.

[iamzulma.livejournal.com]

i took it to be purposely cryptic, but i dared to ask what you meant because i really wanted to know. ;) i'll push more, though!

[dsmoen.livejournal.com]

Speaking as someone whose husband went from normal to dead in an hour: you never know when your time (or your loved one's time) is up. Live each day the best you can.

This is hard for me because there's no way I can think about Johanna's situation without the sudden loss of my own husband (from stroke) coming back and thwacking me like it was 10 minutes ago instead of 13 years ago.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Stroke is very, very scary. I've seen it amongst my friends and family. I'm sorry you went through this and that this is a tough night for you.

[dsmoen.livejournal.com]

If I have one wish in this life, it's that I never ever see anything scarier than watching my husband's brain shut down one function at a time, and not being able to figure out there was anything going on until aphasia hit.

I didn't know it'd slam me this hard again, but it's probably the drug withdrawal that's not helping.

[iamzulma.livejournal.com]

life really is so fragile. i'm so sorry it happened so quickly for you. :( *hugs*

[dsmoen.livejournal.com]

I'm glad it wasn't drawn out, but I wish I'd had a chance to say goodbye.

Before, I wanted to die in my sleep or by some misadventure, but now I'd like maximum comfort for all concerned, not just myself.

[iamzulma.livejournal.com]

i still wanna die in my sleep, though. everyone that i love in my life knows that i love them and i hope they would always remember that, and that they don't feel like anything would be missing, aside from ... me.