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Mar. 25th, 2004 09:21 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rmI pulled a muscle in my shoulder the other day, and I'm in lots of pain. Like hard to sleep with it pain, extremely challenging to move my neck pain. It's not a big deal, but it's irritating as hell. Also muscle cramps always leave me feeling vaguely nauseated for some reason, so it's an unpleasant distraction.
It looks like I should get paid by the middle of next week. Good doesn't even begin to cover that. Bought batteries for my walkman (nothing is a minor expenditure right now), and that has helped immeasureably.
I reread a lot of my journal from last year the other day, and I miss the certainty and bizarre optimism of the time. I rather imagine the time change will help.
Sent my bio in for Counsellor (and if you want tickets, they are already available at SmartTix.com).
Spent an inordinate amount of time trying to explain to Kat on the phone last night this weird thought process I've been harbouring for ages about pregnancy, the genders and parenthood, but I still can't explain it for crap, or why it's interesting to me, and so it remains the vague inarticulated thing that grabs at me sometimes. It's not a biological clock thing, just this intense thing I can't verbalize on the terror, love and contempt that goes on specificly between men and women because of the weird ways we've socially constructed gender. But I can't explain it! I hate being inarticulate. This has been niggling at me for months.
In other news:
Dear Craigslist posters,
Just because most of the people who work for you are actors, open houses for hotel and restaurant jobs are not "open casting calls", and you shouldn't list them as such. It's not witty or useful.
Additionally, photographers looking for models should all stop using the phrase "open minded" immediately. If you are shooting porn, say so -- there are plenty of people as eager to be in that industry as any other. If you are shooting fine art nudes, say so -- it's not shocking enough to require "open minded". If you think your work is so weird that the model has to be "open minded" you probably think too much of yourself and too little of the model -- she doesn't care; she wants a job. Finally, "open minded" is a vague irritating phrase that doesn't just imply you don't know what you're doing, but that the model dosn't either.
Independent stage and film directors, I've got notes for you too. If you're casting something, state the dates of performance/filming. If you don't know, state that too. "Send me headshots" isn't informative enough if we don't already know your name. Which, if you're posting on Craigslist we probably don't.
If you can't spell courtesan, perhaps you should be advertising for lower-class hookers.
Sometimes offering someone low-pay is more insulting than offering them no pay. This note is for photographers who offer $10/hr for shoots (TFP, lunch and car-fare makes it sound less rude), people looking for personal assistants that think the wonder of their homes and $5 an hour makes the grade and promoters looking for sub-promoters "who just want to be cool."
Finally, there's a difference between subtlety and insulting someone's intelligence. Additionally, long paranoid rants about how someone is going to steal your idea and as such you can't tell a prospective job applicant what the job is, do not endear you to anyone.
It looks like I should get paid by the middle of next week. Good doesn't even begin to cover that. Bought batteries for my walkman (nothing is a minor expenditure right now), and that has helped immeasureably.
I reread a lot of my journal from last year the other day, and I miss the certainty and bizarre optimism of the time. I rather imagine the time change will help.
Sent my bio in for Counsellor (and if you want tickets, they are already available at SmartTix.com).
Spent an inordinate amount of time trying to explain to Kat on the phone last night this weird thought process I've been harbouring for ages about pregnancy, the genders and parenthood, but I still can't explain it for crap, or why it's interesting to me, and so it remains the vague inarticulated thing that grabs at me sometimes. It's not a biological clock thing, just this intense thing I can't verbalize on the terror, love and contempt that goes on specificly between men and women because of the weird ways we've socially constructed gender. But I can't explain it! I hate being inarticulate. This has been niggling at me for months.
In other news:
Dear Craigslist posters,
Just because most of the people who work for you are actors, open houses for hotel and restaurant jobs are not "open casting calls", and you shouldn't list them as such. It's not witty or useful.
Additionally, photographers looking for models should all stop using the phrase "open minded" immediately. If you are shooting porn, say so -- there are plenty of people as eager to be in that industry as any other. If you are shooting fine art nudes, say so -- it's not shocking enough to require "open minded". If you think your work is so weird that the model has to be "open minded" you probably think too much of yourself and too little of the model -- she doesn't care; she wants a job. Finally, "open minded" is a vague irritating phrase that doesn't just imply you don't know what you're doing, but that the model dosn't either.
Independent stage and film directors, I've got notes for you too. If you're casting something, state the dates of performance/filming. If you don't know, state that too. "Send me headshots" isn't informative enough if we don't already know your name. Which, if you're posting on Craigslist we probably don't.
If you can't spell courtesan, perhaps you should be advertising for lower-class hookers.
Sometimes offering someone low-pay is more insulting than offering them no pay. This note is for photographers who offer $10/hr for shoots (TFP, lunch and car-fare makes it sound less rude), people looking for personal assistants that think the wonder of their homes and $5 an hour makes the grade and promoters looking for sub-promoters "who just want to be cool."
Finally, there's a difference between subtlety and insulting someone's intelligence. Additionally, long paranoid rants about how someone is going to steal your idea and as such you can't tell a prospective job applicant what the job is, do not endear you to anyone.
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Date: 2004-03-25 09:36 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-03-25 11:01 am (UTC)That is a hilarious line. I want it on bumper stickers and T-shirts.
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Date: 2004-03-25 11:59 am (UTC)....I can't verbalize on the terror, love and contempt...between men and women because of [how] we've socially constructed gender.
I, of course, don't worry about getting pregnant, but I have what I believe is a similar thought process and some difficulty explaining it. "Gender Scripting," to use the buzz phrase, is a little too ingrained in our culture, it is so pervasive and to break through it we must convinced anyone listening (maybe even ourselves) that culture is simply a construct, an ever-changing set of arbitrary rules.
A good starting point for me is the reason I dislike the "Men are Like.../Women are Like..." comics, and it's doesn't matter what their gender is. They are simply playing off ubiquitous male/female stereotypes. It is a limited, even claustrophobic, view of any singular person. It certainly doesn't allow for much diversity and seems, at times, to be steeped in a mistrust, or even hatred, of the opposite sex.
This is very pronounced in most cultures, not surprisingly, when it comes to children and gender roles and where there is, in my opinion, a lot of deep-seated issues.
I would be interested if you would consent to expound upon that idea more, what it is about it that area that gets to you.
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Date: 2004-03-25 12:17 pm (UTC)I would be very interested in hearing more of your thoughts on this when you are able to articulate them. I also find the differences between the gender relationships I see around me (often problematic but most not truly horrid) and those I see in the media (mostly shudder-worthy stereotypes) to be interesting. OTOH I view the whole pregnancy/parenthood dynamic as a horrified outsider who is baffled by why anyone would ever wish to reproduce, I simply don't get it.
If you can't spell courtesan, perhaps you should be advertising for lower-class hookers.
*giggles* Well said!
Additionally, long paranoid rants about how someone is going to steal your idea and as such you can't tell a prospective job applicant what the job is, do not endear you to anyone.
Ah yes, the hallmark of clueless (and annoying) amateurs in every creative profession. I dearly wish that more people understood that craft is at least as important as creativity in any such endeavor.
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Date: 2004-03-25 12:40 pm (UTC)Okay, that is officially the funniest thing you've ever said.
Re: Back pain-- Industrial strength naproxin is on the coffee table and vicodin is in my medicine cabinet if you want it, and ice packs are in the freezer. Sorry about the shoulder, that sucks arse.
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Date: 2004-03-25 09:20 pm (UTC)kate <--currently looking at san francisco craigslist