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marchek. After I bought shoes for it, which were higher than I intended but are super comfy, and an industrial bra that basically takes me form a B-cup to a DD-cup, I decided it didn't need to be shortened, it just needed to be nipped in slightly on one side, and it has been. So it looks great, even if it's pure technology. Perhaps, that's entirely suitable.eleusis_walks: an essay on the death of Jenny Calendar in Buffy which I'm linking to for my own reference because it's about death stuff.
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Date: 2010-09-26 01:15 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 01:46 pm (UTC)Although it sounds strange, I would be more concerned about someone picking up your mail. When I lived in NC, this happened to me. The police said there was a huge ring of mail theft, they were looking for anything that would give them money in way or fashion - stolen credit cards, a couple dollars of cash, freebies from 2 for 1 coupons. It was really strange. My identity wasn't stolen, but I was one of the lucky ones. Mention this to your mail carrier / local post office, they may have some advice or info - and check your credit report just in case.
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Date: 2010-09-26 01:49 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 01:51 pm (UTC)- A very opinionated non-mom
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Date: 2010-09-26 01:52 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 01:54 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 02:38 pm (UTC)- I can't wait to see your "it gets better" video! :)
- I'm glad the UN seems to be assuming a peaceful first contact, not an invasion or interstellar war scenario. Still, I wonder if a person who's (hypothetically) going to speak for the entire bloody planet shouldn't be elected rather than appointed.
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Date: 2010-09-26 02:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 02:48 pm (UTC)The article about carrots is cynical but probably unavoidably accurate.
I had a moment at work recently that made me laugh over something similar to that article: A few of us had gone to Whole Foods to get lunch. I had bought some Gala apples, and one of my co-workers had bought pluots. In what may have been the healthiest "let's trade!" ever, we traded an apple for a pluot.
Clearly, fruits and veggies just need a better marketing firm!
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Date: 2010-09-26 02:49 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 02:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 03:01 pm (UTC)I think it's much harder to spring a change of address on someone these days. When I went to fill out the form last week, I couldn't even find any paper forms at the post office. I had to do it online, and they have a $1 surcharge 'to prevent fraud.' So I doubt it's that. Still possible, but much less likely.
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Date: 2010-09-26 03:42 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 04:22 pm (UTC)There are times when I'm happy with my state, and then there are times like these when I want to punch it in the gut.
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Date: 2010-09-26 04:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 05:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 05:11 pm (UTC)Part of it is a union issue (which is a rant in and of itself about the long standing fuckery between SAG and AFTRA) and part of it is about what I'm calling the Beauty Escalation Wars. Other than Mozzie, there are no ordinary looking people in the White Collar's New York
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Date: 2010-09-26 05:16 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 05:53 pm (UTC)I don't think it's a good idea. Yes, it gets better, but there are ups and downs. And freshmen are still very young.
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Date: 2010-09-26 05:53 pm (UTC)If there's anyone here who has ever gone scuba diving, I'd appreciate some input, too. I've done a fair bit of online research, but first person experience is always better.
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Date: 2010-09-26 06:16 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 06:20 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 06:21 pm (UTC)And it did get better.
Also, YMMV, but the people who need this the most are the people who are already having horrible stuff done to them. You are unlikely to shock them with the details of your experience's particular permutation of man's inhumanity to man. The shocking part is that you survived even all this, and this isn't "only what you deserve for being That Way", and that it's better *now*.
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Date: 2010-09-26 06:21 pm (UTC)And it did get better.
Also, YMMV, but the people who need this the most are the people who are already having horrible stuff done to them. You are unlikely to shock them with the details of your experience's particular permutation of man's inhumanity to man. The shocking part is that you survived even all this, and this isn't "only what you deserve for being That Way", and that it's better *now*.
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Date: 2010-09-26 07:18 pm (UTC)Also, thank you for the reminder to go say hello to
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Date: 2010-09-26 07:19 pm (UTC)For better or for worse (and for worse in the same way that there were hardly any black/Asian/even parenthetically visibly noncisgendered persons on the runways at Fashion Week), I think the attractiveness level was a conscious decision on the part of the producers, to make it stand out from L&O.
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Date: 2010-09-26 07:22 pm (UTC)But like I said, it's a long ass post on the list of long ass posts I need to write. White Collar is such a funny (by funny I mean odd) show in that it's so good on so many things and so muddled or really faily on so many others.
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Date: 2010-09-26 08:17 pm (UTC)But mostly it's that there are still scars from that time in my life that I'm really not ready to poke at yet, even 20 years later.
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Date: 2010-09-26 08:20 pm (UTC)You remind me that I need to caption my video when I do it, so thank you for commenting. I have a few queer friends who are part of communities that use ASL. I'll make sure the local ones know they can use my tech if they want to do something.
Thank you for posting this.
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Date: 2010-09-26 08:39 pm (UTC)The Verizon "Rule the Air" ad bothers me a lot. It doesn't mean anything. It could mean something, but verizon itself has little to do with equality and female power.
Another ad phenomenon I dislike are the companies which make rainbow-covered ads for queer magazines, but would never try to place a queer-oriented ad elsewhere. We can see photographs of victorian couples who are presumably gay or lesbian in some (I think for an airline), with the message, "We have always been progressive. Love us." The other ads generally say, "We don't hate you, so give us your money." The ads aren't relevant in the way that ads meant for heterosexual couples or families are relevant. An ad with a couple making jokes while sitting down to dinner or bedding down for the night is specific about a facet of heterosexual life; a queer ad saying, "You're queer and you should shop here" has very little to do with actual queer people.
For the video, I don't think you need to be vague. You have survived all the crap, which is empowering to people wondering if they can make it. It is also important to know that there are other people out there who are either queer or queer-friendly, that none of us needs to be alone and that there are places to go which are better than others. If we tell them that everything is awesome once they get to college, those that can't get to college for whatever reason may become even more hopeless. And those that do go there thinking everything will be awesome won't have had the disclaimer that not all colleges are awesome towards queer people.
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Date: 2010-09-26 08:45 pm (UTC)They have one woman, total. Win.
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Date: 2010-09-26 08:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 09:23 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-26 09:28 pm (UTC)(We have a lot of Dan Savage in the house, because Patty enjoys his podcasts often for the car-crash factor, so I am usually up to date in a 360-degrees sort of way on bad!Dan, good!Dan and wtf!Dan)
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Date: 2010-09-26 09:34 pm (UTC)Nid Yw Arwain Ni I Brofedigaeth
Date: 2010-09-27 01:08 am (UTC)"Bore da! Ydy, mae'n bod ieir yma."
"Os gwelwch yn dda, pam y mae ieir yma?"
"Mae'n busnes Hogwarts. Maent yn cadw y Daleks i ffwrdd."
"Rydych wedi 'n bert llygaid."
"Rydych wedi 'n bert llygaid."
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Date: 2010-09-27 01:59 am (UTC)The problem with fruits and veggies is not that they don't taste good. The problem is that the parents aren't eating enough of 'em, or they're not buying good enough produce. If you can't get it directly from a farmer or farmers' market, getting produce from the fancy, preferably organic, stores is your best bet. (Whole Foods does not suck. Trader Joe's is too boutique-y for me. My Organic Market is a DC-metro "crunchy granola" chain that is absolutely stupendous.)
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Date: 2010-09-27 03:14 am (UTC)And the fact that he doesn't cite any particular incident for his boldfaced assertion makes it all the worse.
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Date: 2010-09-27 03:15 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-27 03:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-27 05:13 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-27 05:13 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-27 05:19 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-27 08:26 am (UTC)Secondly, no one gets to decide what art is for anyone else, or why.
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Date: 2010-09-27 01:24 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-27 01:24 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-27 02:36 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-29 03:33 pm (UTC)Good luck with your "It Gets Better" thing. These things are hard. I sort of want to do one, but worry that my current state of "better" is not exactly compelling in terms of things to look forward to. Maybe this time next year?