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[rm]

I cut my hair!

Patty has chosen a living situation in Cardiff and I believe is moving in there today. There are chickens. Someone, please use the chickens detail in a Torchwood fic.

Dress has been altered thanks to marchek. After I bought shoes for it, which were higher than I intended but are super comfy, and an industrial bra that basically takes me form a B-cup to a DD-cup, I decided it didn't need to be shortened, it just needed to be nipped in slightly on one side, and it has been. So it looks great, even if it's pure technology. Perhaps, that's entirely suitable.

I fear I am getting Patty's cold. Add to this that I need to get up at 4am tomorrow because of one of those vagaries of media-related employment and I'm full of dread. Mostly, I just need to power through the event tomorrow night, and then if I get sick, I get sick, although I'd rather manage to power through this whole week -- what with the Paley Center and the Inception rehearsal.

We haven't gotten any mail at the house in several days, which is pretty unusual. Should I be concerned about this in a "some asshole did a change of address on me" or something similar way?

Last night I tried to start my "It Gets Better" video. I've run into a few problems, including that most of the anti-gay bullying I experienced was during my completely horrific freshman year of college; that's not very promising is it? Maybe I should be vague. Also, somewhere towards the end of messing with it last night I sort of had a "Oh, this is how iMovie works!" breakthrough that has now led me to being all "scrap this, story board, start again, be awesome!" which on on hand is unnecessary, but on the other hand, does speak to greater cogency. Also, the power of editing is awesome, because it helps the directorial imagination, but wow, I HATE EDITING. At least with iMovie. It's a patience thing. MAKE IT GO. GRah.

If the aliens come, the UN has a plan.

I mentioned Sukkah City last week, here's an article about it.

An amicus brief opposing gay marriage has been filed to the 9th Circuit from Alabama, Florida, Idaho, Indiana, Louisiana, Michigan, South Carolina, Utah, Virginia, and Wyoming. Just so you know which states are on notice.

What's being sold in ads that feature "female empowerment"? I generally hate those ads. To some people they're inspiring. To me they say "you're nothing, but if you buy this thing, you can feel like you have one tiny little choice in the world."

Branding carrots as junk food to get kids to eat them.

The Kafkaeqsue legal wrangle over Kafka's papers.

"The Ecstasy of Grief" by eleusis_walks: an essay on the death of Jenny Calendar in Buffy which I'm linking to for my own reference because it's about death stuff.

Comments

[heavenscalyx.livejournal.com]

I was very on the fence about whether or not to support the "It Gets Better" project, because I've heard such negative stuff about Dan Savage in the past, but then I read Neo-prodigy's comment on Dan Savage and I'm not going to support it. It is theoretically a nice idea, but I object to the bigoted politics of the guy at the source.

[rm.livejournal.com]

I'm very aware of the many problematic things that have and continue to come out of Savage's mouth, and I at least alluded to them in my initial post about this. For me, right now, I think there is more benefit to getting this message out there, from more voices (I worry a lot that the net result of this effort will be videos mostly from somewhat well-off white gay men and that this won't speak to PoC, women, trans people, and those with different socioeconomic backgrounds in the queer community) than in boycotting it because a good idea came from a problematic guy. Your mileage may understandably vary a lot. My choice may be wrong, and who knows, may in fact prove to be different at some other point in time. There are certainly, and unfortunately, large and significant intersecting issues here that I will try to make more of a public note of when I find myself mentioning this project again in the future.

Also, thank you for the reminder to go say hello to neo_prodigy who I got to briefly meet at Dragon*Con.

[heavenscalyx.livejournal.com]

Understood. I missed your original post about it; I'm sorry for pointing out something you were already well-aware of! It was just something I was chewing on, and Neo's comment was enlightening for me.

[rm.livejournal.com]

All good! I apologize if my crankier than usual state of being got on you. I'm still sort of having a moment from yesterday.

(We have a lot of Dan Savage in the house, because Patty enjoys his podcasts often for the car-crash factor, so I am usually up to date in a 360-degrees sort of way on bad!Dan, good!Dan and wtf!Dan)

[heavenscalyx.livejournal.com]

Not a problem -- September has been such a nasty month for so many people I know, I'm trying to be mellow on interpersonal stuff. :} And I know I've been engaging in a lot of LJ-skimming action lately for much the same September reason.

[marlowe1.livejournal.com]

But he doesn't cite his sources. How can rumor mongering be enlightening to anyone?

[eredien]

I keep wanting to do a video, or asking my boyfriend to do a video with me, but a lot of the shit I got was after I came out in my early/mid 20's, from my family, after I was away from them. And I'm not sure if it's really a good idea to do "it gets better" two months after breaking up with my fiancee, even though those videos have been helping me get through the breakup without freaking out too hard.

[deusabscondidum.livejournal.com]

I object to him too, but I think the project is worthwhile.

[marlowe1.livejournal.com]

This is the first time I heard of anyone claiming the Dan Savage was either racist or against trans people. I've been reading Savage Love for years and I've not read anything of the kind. I don't read and watch everything Savage does, but this sounds like bullshit to me.

And the fact that he doesn't cite any particular incident for his boldfaced assertion makes it all the worse.