this is a story of ghosts
Apr. 29th, 2005 09:26 amSince last night I keep writing posts and erasing them. Nothing very deep, but just general dismay with my ability to articulate all the things that I was finding sad. I wasn't really sad myself (I'm not really sure why I need to clarify that), but just stuff that was making me disappointed in the world, or nostalgic for younger times.
The most recent Lucie-Brock Broido book arrived, and as with all her things, I wanted to post each and every one of her poems here, just because I love the language of them, like marbles in my mouth. But I thought they would be misconstrued as veiled messages by some and just boring by others. Also, her work has come to remind me of all sorts of strange things, it's an idea I'm trying to form into a poem (actually it's all tangled up in that thng I wrote the other day about beauty, about having the face of the dead, about the number zero, this connects to it too -- and the form of it all is in my head, but I just can't seem to put it together yet, but as New York is a 19th century city, we have been living in a city of the dead for some time, and have just noticed, and now it has come time to punish the ghosts).
My copy of My Own Private Idaho arrived as well, and in the little book that came with it are all these interviews from back when it was released in 1991, and everyone involved seems so sweet and giggly, and I never really cared all that much that River Phoenix was dead and certainly the subject matter of that film looks much different at 19 than 32, especially with the things that occupy creative space in my mind. I haven't even watched the film yet, but I was very sad -- because River died, because people don't get that even folks in the most horrible circumstances sometimes laugh, because I want to be in Sydney taking crappy DV video to make a rough construction of the navigation of the film I'm writing, because people forget things, because so many things are different for girls in a way that makes them so expected no one notices when our words are powerful. Certain wounds just seem ordinary.
I hate that so many people I know don't feel free. That they are adults and have people telling them they can't or shouldn't do perfectly ordinary things they would like to do -- or worse, they've decided they would not be allowed or would be scolded or mocked when maybe they wouldn't be at all. They remind me of the child I was who stared at ice cream, but never asked. I realize rationally that most, and often even I, would say -- this is just what being an adult is, it's called compromise and the appropriate supression of inappropriate desire. It's not that I don't believe in it. Hell, I'm often the diplomat when I am least obligated to be. It's that I think it's strange that we compromise on petty things and never discuss the big issues behind them. Compromise should be saved for the big stuff... and the small stuff -- shouldn't we all be happy to do what we will? I know life is more complicated than that, but I wish it weren't, or that more people would choose for it not to be. I know these little losses of freedom are not serious, I know they are easy, and I know they are rarely a slippery slope into much more than the type of life I don't want (and am, by all reports, misguided for shunning -- but I'm not highminded so much as too oddly socialized to make a good show of the mechanics). But I know what it's like to dread the mocking (and not the good-natured kind, if that even exists) I'm going to get for doing something that I enjoy that really has no bearing on anyone else -- is it possible to be intellectually weak in our tastes? I've heard it is, but I think those people must be liars or at least grossly misinformed. I also know what it is like to sit with a friend, and watch them half hiding under a table as they called home, ashamed at circumstances I didn't then know about and having to check in, not out of courtesy, but constantly as if some sort of slow child.
Also -- "it's not you, it's me" never works not because people want to hate themselves or think the speaker is lying. It never works because it never sounds like someone taking responsibility. It always sounds like "I'm sorry. You didn't exist."
It also makes me sad that I grew up in a particular old world New York, that is slowly shrinking, that is being devoured and comodified by the likes of Paris Hilton, reality TV and the Disney corporation, and that I will never ever really be able to explain it without having to deal with someone's thrashing rage. It was not a kind society. It was, in fact, awful but it was polite and unique and its slow loss deserves to be mourned; a casual dinner was once black tie.
Finally, two things:
- I was not deprived, injured and harmed in any way for having grown up in a city. I was never confounded by how to play, and while surely it made my interests different, I wasn't less a child for my home, or for that matter, for having no siblings. One could argue it's led to my resourcefulness and creativity. But mostly, it just doesn't matter. Children will be children no matter where they are as long as they are given permission and opportunity to be children.
- In the religious mania of our country and due to the recent papal transition I resent having to wonder if I'm going to hell for my trying to be a decent person often taking a different form than the next guy's. I know, I shouldn't wonder these things, and I don't really, but I'd like if we could all talk about something else for a little while. People shouldn't have to justify their lives. Not this ordinary small shit, anyway.
Additionally, I have this idea in the back of my head that I keep worrying like a sore tooth -- a one-woman (yes, woman) show based around Oscar Wilde's tour of America. Relevant, funny, sad... and when I was a teen-ager my mother always said I looked like him (being tiny quite aside). She probably regrets and denies this now. In the evenings, I've been flipping through the often bizarre letters he sent during that period.
Unrelated to any of this, but also weighing, has anyone heard from
sandstar? I hope she's doing well.
Also, you all might want to check in on the further adventures of
rezendi.
The most recent Lucie-Brock Broido book arrived, and as with all her things, I wanted to post each and every one of her poems here, just because I love the language of them, like marbles in my mouth. But I thought they would be misconstrued as veiled messages by some and just boring by others. Also, her work has come to remind me of all sorts of strange things, it's an idea I'm trying to form into a poem (actually it's all tangled up in that thng I wrote the other day about beauty, about having the face of the dead, about the number zero, this connects to it too -- and the form of it all is in my head, but I just can't seem to put it together yet, but as New York is a 19th century city, we have been living in a city of the dead for some time, and have just noticed, and now it has come time to punish the ghosts).
My copy of My Own Private Idaho arrived as well, and in the little book that came with it are all these interviews from back when it was released in 1991, and everyone involved seems so sweet and giggly, and I never really cared all that much that River Phoenix was dead and certainly the subject matter of that film looks much different at 19 than 32, especially with the things that occupy creative space in my mind. I haven't even watched the film yet, but I was very sad -- because River died, because people don't get that even folks in the most horrible circumstances sometimes laugh, because I want to be in Sydney taking crappy DV video to make a rough construction of the navigation of the film I'm writing, because people forget things, because so many things are different for girls in a way that makes them so expected no one notices when our words are powerful. Certain wounds just seem ordinary.
I hate that so many people I know don't feel free. That they are adults and have people telling them they can't or shouldn't do perfectly ordinary things they would like to do -- or worse, they've decided they would not be allowed or would be scolded or mocked when maybe they wouldn't be at all. They remind me of the child I was who stared at ice cream, but never asked. I realize rationally that most, and often even I, would say -- this is just what being an adult is, it's called compromise and the appropriate supression of inappropriate desire. It's not that I don't believe in it. Hell, I'm often the diplomat when I am least obligated to be. It's that I think it's strange that we compromise on petty things and never discuss the big issues behind them. Compromise should be saved for the big stuff... and the small stuff -- shouldn't we all be happy to do what we will? I know life is more complicated than that, but I wish it weren't, or that more people would choose for it not to be. I know these little losses of freedom are not serious, I know they are easy, and I know they are rarely a slippery slope into much more than the type of life I don't want (and am, by all reports, misguided for shunning -- but I'm not highminded so much as too oddly socialized to make a good show of the mechanics). But I know what it's like to dread the mocking (and not the good-natured kind, if that even exists) I'm going to get for doing something that I enjoy that really has no bearing on anyone else -- is it possible to be intellectually weak in our tastes? I've heard it is, but I think those people must be liars or at least grossly misinformed. I also know what it is like to sit with a friend, and watch them half hiding under a table as they called home, ashamed at circumstances I didn't then know about and having to check in, not out of courtesy, but constantly as if some sort of slow child.
Also -- "it's not you, it's me" never works not because people want to hate themselves or think the speaker is lying. It never works because it never sounds like someone taking responsibility. It always sounds like "I'm sorry. You didn't exist."
It also makes me sad that I grew up in a particular old world New York, that is slowly shrinking, that is being devoured and comodified by the likes of Paris Hilton, reality TV and the Disney corporation, and that I will never ever really be able to explain it without having to deal with someone's thrashing rage. It was not a kind society. It was, in fact, awful but it was polite and unique and its slow loss deserves to be mourned; a casual dinner was once black tie.
Finally, two things:
- I was not deprived, injured and harmed in any way for having grown up in a city. I was never confounded by how to play, and while surely it made my interests different, I wasn't less a child for my home, or for that matter, for having no siblings. One could argue it's led to my resourcefulness and creativity. But mostly, it just doesn't matter. Children will be children no matter where they are as long as they are given permission and opportunity to be children.
- In the religious mania of our country and due to the recent papal transition I resent having to wonder if I'm going to hell for my trying to be a decent person often taking a different form than the next guy's. I know, I shouldn't wonder these things, and I don't really, but I'd like if we could all talk about something else for a little while. People shouldn't have to justify their lives. Not this ordinary small shit, anyway.
Additionally, I have this idea in the back of my head that I keep worrying like a sore tooth -- a one-woman (yes, woman) show based around Oscar Wilde's tour of America. Relevant, funny, sad... and when I was a teen-ager my mother always said I looked like him (being tiny quite aside). She probably regrets and denies this now. In the evenings, I've been flipping through the often bizarre letters he sent during that period.
Unrelated to any of this, but also weighing, has anyone heard from
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