girls and bullying

[rm]

http://www.livejournal.com/users/theferrett/466248.html

A user has heard the girls can be just as bad if not worse than boys. He asks for examples. And gets them, and keeps getting them. And then gets some more.

I make this unpleasant observance:
"We live in a world where "pretty girls are good girls" and bullied girls cannot defend themselves -- as it is easier for most teachers to take the side of good looking gregarious children, as opposed to the awkward, shy or increasingly embittered. It's a self-perpetuating loops for both genders, but one I suspect starts with greater ease for girls, who in all our social training, have so many fewer purposes."

but omit getting into the adult bullying that continues in all social groups, and especially, it seems, on the Internet. Anyone remember the wonder of the Friendditto conflagration?

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[ladyofthelog.livejournal.com]

My middle school experience wasn't very traumatizing, but I don't remember it very well. I think the most I've ever said about it was that "I was a different person," which is more or less true, given that I humiliated and harassed two people who had never been anything but kind to me - one because he wasn't a socially acceptable friend and the other because I was jealous of her. Nothing very serious, but nonetheless, cruel and regrettable.

Neither of them have changed very much in the intervening years, but I'm glad I have.