grrrr

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If I want to marry a man somewhere other than New York (such as say, Massachusetts) and come back to live in New York, I can do that. But if it's a girl, apparently I fucking can't. Is MA really going to start denying marriage licenses to straight couples looking for marry, but not settle, there for whatever reason?

http://www.nytimes.com/aponline/national/AP-Gay-Marriage.html

Grrrrr. grrrrr. grrrr.

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Come to vegas. Anyone can get married here. Hell, you can get a Klingon to marry you here if you want.

Point of curio : This whole affair makes me wonder what the point is of getting married anymore. The advantages legally that are achieved by being married can ( IIRC ) be just as easily secured by a few legal documents - and the rest is just a magic show. I don't mean to seem blunt and insensitive, but I've never understood the need for people to go through with the whole noisy you must do X to meet our approval business. I would like to think that we have evolved past the need for a church wedding to make the family happy - and more into the base reason for the marriage - two people dedicating themselves together. I think we have lost the message in all of the fighting, ceremony, mandatory gift buying and other reindeer games. I do understand the legal aspects of it - but outside of that it should be no more and no less than a celebration of two people making a strong decision in a diffucult world.

Personally, to hell what the state, church, or anyone else has to say concerning gender pairing. Any two people who are willing to dedicate their lives to each other for the duration need nothing more than the fortitude to do just that, and need not seek the big rubber stamp of OK from anyone else.

I know that some people are bound to the concept of their family, and to be perfectly honest I'm removed from that having no family to speak of since 1988. I went through the loss of that, so I don't have to worry about going home for the holidays and so on. This taints my opinions and thoughts more than a little, and I understand that. I just get amazingly angry at the world for making a huge thing out of this simple concept based exclusively on preconcieved gender roles. Having more than a few friends in same gender relationships ( both married and unmarried ) I really don't see what the big deal is by comparision. I feel the same happiness and slight twinge of jealousy ( those lucky kids - starting a new life off together ) that I do for any other marriage/handfasting/kilingon bonding ceremony[1].

Are we sill living in a world where we belive that the gods will strike us down if we have marriages that are not approved of by the perdominant religion of the region? While we are at it, let's live in mud huts and throw virgins into the volcano before planting.



[1] Yes, I have frinds who have done the klingon bonding ceremony. I have the wedding invitation to prove it.