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http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry

This article is hateful and crazy. Which is a shame, as buried deep within it are so good points regarding not dating people based on their resumes and the importance of partnership and not just passion.

But it's entirely hateful.

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[upstart-crow.livejournal.com]

And all I can say is, if you say you’re not worried, either you’re in denial or you’re lying. In fact, take a good look in the mirror and try to convince yourself that you’re not worried, because you’ll see how silly your face looks when you’re being disingenuous.

Alright, then. I'll be 30 in two and a half years. I don't want children, thank you. My partner and I prefer to mother cats, dogs, amphibians, other community members, and books. And if we ever had kids, we'd adopt. Too damn many unwanted children in this world to produce more, in my opinion. I have never wanted children and doubt very much that I will regret the decision not to have them. I do not think they're my purpose in life, and I imagine many women think the same.

I get what she's saying about not being ridiculous when it comes to dating and love (i.e. so what if he yells "Bravo!" in the theatre or has halitosis?! These are real issues that real people worry about?). Holding out for the perfect person is a recipie for disaster, because s/he doesn't exist. But following what I think is the real purpose of her advice on "settling" is a recipie not just for misery, but for potential physical/emotional/sexual abuse. I mean, would she tell a thirty-three year old woman to marry a guy who calls her "stupid" "fat" and "worthless" all the time because, hey, "you won't do any better?"

Backlash against feminism, indeed.

[weyrdchic.livejournal.com]

*stealthkiss!*

[upstart-crow.livejournal.com]

Y HALO THAR! <3 *kiss* Love you!

Why aren't you on AIM?!

[weyrdchic.livejournal.com]

Just got here. <3 I'll be along in a moment. *stops spamming your friend's inbox*

[delchi.livejournal.com]

What's worse is that there are people out there like that. I had to pick myself up off the floor after a friend of mine said as much about her physically abusive boyfriend. She said " WEll I'll never get another guy , so I have to keep him ". Nothing I coudl say would change her mind.

Thankfully she came around a while later. Still... gah...