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Apr. 23rd, 2008 08:26 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rmSorry, new and improved version. I left out some important options.
I realize this is entirely non-scientific and because LJ skews towards women even more unscientific for that. But I tend to think these little exercises still have their uses and least when it comes to reminding people about privilege (or I may turn out to be totally wrong).
ETA:
to answer some frequent questions:
1. Unwanted contact from a person you are in a relationship with should be read as a sexual overture (possibly entirely appropriate but you weren't in the mood) was made that you rejected, BUT the rejection was then not heeded in a fashion that you feel harmed you/violated your person/rights.
2. I know, I left out a choice for boss/coworker/clergy member/teacher/professional relationship/person in position of authority -- please put it in the acquaintance category. This was noticed too late to redo the poll and I'll note it when I do the results summary post.
3. If you are trans, genderqueer, etc. and want to answer in more than one category based on how you were presenting at the time, that's fine.
4. The way LJ shows the answers to this isn't actually that statistically interesting to what I'm trying to capture, and I will eventually make a post about some other things I'm seeing somewhat buried in the numbers.
5. Yes, your answers are viewable to everyone. There's a point to that too that will be discussed later as well.
6. Feel free to link to this in your own journal.
7. THANK YOU.
[Poll #1175760]
I realize this is entirely non-scientific and because LJ skews towards women even more unscientific for that. But I tend to think these little exercises still have their uses and least when it comes to reminding people about privilege (or I may turn out to be totally wrong).
ETA:
to answer some frequent questions:
1. Unwanted contact from a person you are in a relationship with should be read as a sexual overture (possibly entirely appropriate but you weren't in the mood) was made that you rejected, BUT the rejection was then not heeded in a fashion that you feel harmed you/violated your person/rights.
2. I know, I left out a choice for boss/coworker/clergy member/teacher/professional relationship/person in position of authority -- please put it in the acquaintance category. This was noticed too late to redo the poll and I'll note it when I do the results summary post.
3. If you are trans, genderqueer, etc. and want to answer in more than one category based on how you were presenting at the time, that's fine.
4. The way LJ shows the answers to this isn't actually that statistically interesting to what I'm trying to capture, and I will eventually make a post about some other things I'm seeing somewhat buried in the numbers.
5. Yes, your answers are viewable to everyone. There's a point to that too that will be discussed later as well.
6. Feel free to link to this in your own journal.
7. THANK YOU.
[Poll #1175760]
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Date: 2008-04-23 03:43 pm (UTC)I've never doubted that women are, and can be, frequently targeted by harassers/abusers. Nor that the vast majority of the harassers/abusers are men. And that yes, often the harassers/abusers do so out of a sense of entitlement. My point is that whereas women are increasingly more open about discussing this, it's an issue that will be vastly underreported by men for at least another generation, if for no other reason, than because to admit to receiving any abuse/harassment would still be considered "not being man enough to take it".
Seriously. I'm 6'2", a former paratrooper, and pretty well tattooed. And I'll admit to the following because I'm comfortable in my own identity and preferences. But in the city I have to play the sidewalk game nearly every day with guys puffing up their chests and trying to walk straight at me, bumping into me, and then mumbling threats as we pass (and I'd prefer to not even touch the related race issues that goes with that). Or space issues in the subway. Additionally, for just a moment, if you think straight men can be pigs in the work place, just imagine how pushy some gay men can be to other men, when given positions of authority or further entitlement.
And if I have to go through this on a regular basis, I can only imagine what others have to deal with. But we almost never discuss this because to do so "wouldn't be manly".
I'm lucky that I choose to not consider myself a victim, and that I do have the power to stand up for myself or stand my ground if needed, and that I can even find a degree humour in analyzing the stupidity of men in general (myself included).
But yeah, many men are total shits and creepwads to other men on a regular basis, reported or discussed or not.