non-science

[rm]

Sorry, new and improved version. I left out some important options.

I realize this is entirely non-scientific and because LJ skews towards women even more unscientific for that. But I tend to think these little exercises still have their uses and least when it comes to reminding people about privilege (or I may turn out to be totally wrong).

ETA:

to answer some frequent questions:

1. Unwanted contact from a person you are in a relationship with should be read as a sexual overture (possibly entirely appropriate but you weren't in the mood) was made that you rejected, BUT the rejection was then not heeded in a fashion that you feel harmed you/violated your person/rights.

2. I know, I left out a choice for boss/coworker/clergy member/teacher/professional relationship/person in position of authority -- please put it in the acquaintance category. This was noticed too late to redo the poll and I'll note it when I do the results summary post.

3. If you are trans, genderqueer, etc. and want to answer in more than one category based on how you were presenting at the time, that's fine.

4. The way LJ shows the answers to this isn't actually that statistically interesting to what I'm trying to capture, and I will eventually make a post about some other things I'm seeing somewhat buried in the numbers.

5. Yes, your answers are viewable to everyone. There's a point to that too that will be discussed later as well.

6. Feel free to link to this in your own journal.

7. THANK YOU.


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Comments

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

Ok, maybe this is a stupid question, but can you define "unwanted"? Because by some definition "sweetie, please stop grabbing my tits... I'm not in the mood" said to my SO is a reaction to "unwanted" sexual attention. When I said this, of course, he stopped. I don't consider this in any way an inappropriate act on his part or any kind of violation. We have a relationship in which an acceptable way to say "are you in the mood?" is to initiate sexual physical contact (as I suspect many people do). But in the broadest sense he did something I did not, at the time, want. A stricter definition of "unwanted" would be such an action performed by someone I did NOT think had the right to do it.

(hi, here by a link from joedecker)

[rm.livejournal.com]

I thought about clarifying that and then thought that doing so would insult people's intelligence. What I mean is something you felt was inappropriate. In the case of a stranger that's clearer. In the case of a partner, I would say that it's when saying no to an advance is not heeded in a way that the person answer the poll felt harmed by. Certainly, that question was written with the knowledge that I have more than one friend who was raped by someone who was their spouse at the time.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

I thought about clarifying that and then thought that doing so would insult people's intelligence.

Well I did acknowledge that it was probably a stupid question, but thanks for clarifying :)

[beaq.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it probably should have been clear to me. I wasn't entirely sure what your purpose was, though, so I cast my net pretty wide.

[beaq.livejournal.com]

Same question, and through same route.

[rm.livejournal.com]

See response to original questioner (sorry, am INUNDATED and I wrote the thing half asleep).