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[rm]

Patty has boarded her flight. I am completely exhausted and wrung out. In a day or two I will be used to this as the status of things until she arrives back in the States on March 17, but right now, it's hard and it's tiring and I am not used to it.

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[eac.livejournal.com]

:(

[bodlon.livejournal.com]

*hug*

[brewsternorth.livejournal.com]

Mibble. *hugs*

[miep.livejournal.com]

that is a very long time. here's hoping the opportunity for fantastic letter-writing makes things slightly more bearable.

[mobobocita.livejournal.com]

March 17? I can't imagine Lisa being gone that long. Thank goodness you are so busy!

[rm.livejournal.com]

9/10 weeks has been standard for all her digs -- this is the third time we're doing this. I know it will seem routine soon, but it's so hard, not just because I adore her, but we live together really well.

[mobobocita.livejournal.com]

We did the long distance thing for 3 years, Basically once a quarter we'd get 5-10 days together and that's it. Now that we live together I don't think I'd cope well with that kind of travel.

When it's your partner, I doubt leaving is ever routine.

[antelope-writes.livejournal.com]

It's the same thing in my line of work, and it never gets easier. You only get more used to it.

Oddly enough, it's sometimes worse for the partner who's leaving to have the partner staying behind standing on the pier waiting for the ship to go away (or flight, as the case may be)--but it's never, ever bad to see somebody waiting for you when you get home.

[elionwyr.livejournal.com]

I don't think so, either..I used to end up sleeping on the sofa when my (now ex) husband was away on a dig, which was up to 1-1/2 months at a time, in places where the opportunity for phone calls were rare.

(Though it's funny - a friend of mine is now on a dig in a similar corner of the world and she's updating her Facebook a few times a week. How things change..)

[starkyld.livejournal.com]

Separations can be really hard, even when there's a strong career-developing reason for it. I know I struggled when Mark moved away for luthiery school and again when he moved to Maryland before I did. I wish you peace with it.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Patty and I have never had phone (we don't even use it when she's away in the States really) on her digs. We think she'll have Internet on this one, but right now, I don't even have an address for her in Oman to write to her. They're renting a house or deciding which house or something when she gets there, so she should be able to tell me soon.

[rm.livejournal.com]

We're pretty good with it -- her first dig was three weeks after we got together. I know what I signed up for, and she likes it, and that helps a lot.

[elionwyr.livejournal.com]

Does she blog much about her work? I'm very curious.

And...I know this will sound odd, but I also think you'll get it..there's something kinda sweet/romantic about plotting how to get communications to your loved one when they're so far away..

[rm.livejournal.com]

Yup. So much of our courtship was based on letters because her first dig was three weeks after we started dating. So that's why even with Internet, it's important to us that we can exchange paper letters ( I wrote her one for the plane, she left one here for me).

[starkyld.livejournal.com]

That definitely sounds like it helps. And it's great that she's making positive steps for her career.

If you want to get together for tea or something while she's away to pass the time, send me a message. It's been a long time since I've seen you and I'd love to catch up.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Yes, totally. I'll be mildly crazy for the next week as I get back into work/fencing and the cat surgery thing, but maybe later in January!

[elionwyr.livejournal.com]

I have a fondness for putting short letters in plastic bottles and mailing them thusly. :)

[starkyld.livejournal.com]

Totally understandable. Bap me a message when you have a spot more free time. I think I should be fairly flexible.

I saw your entries about the cat earlier and felt bad. We went through some panic with both of ours this past spring and summer (and spent more than we could truly afford on vet bills). I hope that the surgery goes well.

[redstapler.livejournal.com]

::hugs::

I heard all of this.

[imaginarycircus.livejournal.com]

I don't know how you do it, except that you have to. David used to travel a lot for work and I hated it. He was pretty much gone through the first nine months of our marriage and I was alone in Yonkers starting grad school. So at least you're not alone in Yonkers!

[cruentum.livejournal.com]

*hugs* 'cause I totally know the feeling