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[rm]

Check your freezers! Ground beef recall.

You can still help the fight for marriage equality in Maine. If you are a Maine resident, you need to vote. In fact, if there is a local election in your area today, please be sure to vote. These elections tend to have very low turn-out and its how extremists get weird referendums passed and anti-science people onto school boards. It's always good to vote.

What makes an American? Or, let's watch people be anti-immigrant racists about the guy who just won the New York City Marathon.

There's been another arrest in the Richmond gang rape.

Amazing environmentally friendly alternative to a converted van for those who use wheelchairs. Of course, it just seems to be in Europe right now, and the top speed is relatively low (so no going on a highway with this!) but it looks great for getting around a city.

Asperger's as a vanishing diagnosis.

This guy was almost Han Solo. Works for me. Check the smile.

Who you share a hotel with can be why cons are often unexpectedly funny.

Look, I saw this on 5251962's journal, and now you need to know too, just because: Bats have oral sex.

DAVID TENNANT, YOU LEFT DOCTOR WHO FOR THIS!?!?1?!!?!?!??

The things I learn on Twitter: there are lesbians on the 90210 retread.

hughcasey has an alert for the dino-obsessed!

Missing Sky Harbor baggage found.

Comments

[sociallyawkrd.livejournal.com]

Just to clarify I have never and would never say "Why does it have to be so in your face." I don't think a person who chooses to tell everyone or anyone is doing anything I have any sort of issue with.

My issue is solely related to how the media identifies people. And whether I think that is a good or bad thing. And I think it is in fact both.

I get being straight is the default and that is why I would never be identified as such but it worries me when the media takes it upon themselves to identify everyone as gay if they are that somehow that is making it lesser than straight.

I don't want to come off as a jackass here because I get that I don't have the same stake in it. But at the same time I do have some stake in the perception and identification of sexual orientation by the media. I am raising a son who I want to grow up as either 1. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, gay man or 2. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, bisexual man or 3. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, transgendered man or 4. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, asexual man or 5. 2. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, straight man

I want all of these men to treat everyone with kindness and respect. I want him to not be influenced by the media as to what is normative and not. I am scared that he will end up fodder for the bigots or a bigot himself.

So I realize I don't get it right all the time. But it is why I ask these questions because I want to. I realize the privilege I get as a straight, white, woman. I understand that privilege shapes my opinions and feelings. I try very hard to reach beyond that so I can understand it.

Anyhow, clearly I am defensive :)

K.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Maybe you should visit http://www.GLAAD.org, which is all about LGBTQ and media representation and image. I don't know my way around their site that well, but they might have some position papers on this that are useful to your process on it.

And I do think you have a stake in this. We all have a stake in this. I just don't think you have a _risk_ in this, at least right now.

[sociallyawkrd.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I hope you understand I wasn't looking for you to be my tour guide on the issue. Rather I seriously find the things you say very thought provoking. I appreciate your answer.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Yup, it's all good. One of the other things that can be weird about this stuff, is as much as I do need to think about these issues, sometimes I just don't, since I'm often like "oh hey, one for our team!"

[sociallyawkrd.livejournal.com]

I think I used a bad example too. Because the reason it was news was because it was a first. I was pleased in the fact that I think every time we have a first it makes it a lot easier to have the next million. It just started me thinking it. I think it niggles at me more when it is "Gay man saves drowning child" -type stories. It always feels to me that it is just a SHOCK that someone who is gay could do something so good. Anyhow...thanks again!

[rm.livejournal.com]

One more data point for you. I now go nuts in articles when they mention someone's partner and I can't figure out if it's a gay or a straight partner. As a queer person, I still want the data apparently. Don't know if that's good or bad.

[darthhellokitty.livejournal.com]

And, are they a romantic partner, or a business partner?

[smirnoffmule.livejournal.com]

I tend to assume if they say partner they mean gay until proven otherwise. Apparently, it's a code word in my mind. Obviously, this means I'm pretty often wrong, but it's kind of comforting to be breaking the default occasionally. And, at least partner beats gay lover or "husband" in passive-aggressive inverted commas.

[eumelia.livejournal.com]

I agree with this, sometime the neutrality just replicates the invisibility.