sundries

[rm]

Check your freezers! Ground beef recall.

You can still help the fight for marriage equality in Maine. If you are a Maine resident, you need to vote. In fact, if there is a local election in your area today, please be sure to vote. These elections tend to have very low turn-out and its how extremists get weird referendums passed and anti-science people onto school boards. It's always good to vote.

What makes an American? Or, let's watch people be anti-immigrant racists about the guy who just won the New York City Marathon.

There's been another arrest in the Richmond gang rape.

Amazing environmentally friendly alternative to a converted van for those who use wheelchairs. Of course, it just seems to be in Europe right now, and the top speed is relatively low (so no going on a highway with this!) but it looks great for getting around a city.

Asperger's as a vanishing diagnosis.

This guy was almost Han Solo. Works for me. Check the smile.

Who you share a hotel with can be why cons are often unexpectedly funny.

Look, I saw this on 5251962's journal, and now you need to know too, just because: Bats have oral sex.

DAVID TENNANT, YOU LEFT DOCTOR WHO FOR THIS!?!?1?!!?!?!??

The things I learn on Twitter: there are lesbians on the 90210 retread.

hughcasey has an alert for the dino-obsessed!

Missing Sky Harbor baggage found.

Comments

[brewsternorth.livejournal.com]

Of course, it just seems to be in Europe.

*sadface*

On the other hand, with the resurgence of the small car in America, maybe there's the possibility of a niche-market for these things. They certainly look a lot more fun than the Reliant Robin...

And what a pity that Glynn Turman lost out. He certainly could've played the space-rogue, I agree, and if anything he seems to have aged rather better than Harrison Ford.

[sykii.livejournal.com]

Almost-Han-Solo is fabulous. I love the roguish grin. And wasn't the Luke Skywalker character originally supposed to be female? Or is that a nerd urban legend?

[brewsternorth.livejournal.com]

I think that probably is urban legend.

Skywalker/Starkiller was supposed to be older at the start of the trilogy in Lucas' first draft, though.

[5251962.livejournal.com]

:D Everyone should know bats have oral sex.

[wordsofastory.livejournal.com]

"It was difficult to provide some hypotheses for the function of the fellatio behavior," Zhang said. "We held many meetings to discuss the functions."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[idunn.livejournal.com]

re: the article about that runner, oy. France actually has a website (http://www.csmonitor.com/2009/1103/p06s04-woeu.html) up asking that question.

[rm.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure what's funnier, that the guy can't figure out the purpose of blowjobs or that there were meetings about this knowledge gap.

[sociallyawkrd.livejournal.com]

So I have a question for you because obviously you have more stake in this than I do and even when I don't always hold the same opinion I find your take is very thought provoking.

I was listening to CNN this morning while getting ready to go to work and they mentioned that the new owners of the Cubs includes an openly gay woman making that a first.

I find myself torn on this. I think the openness about sexual preference is a good thing and has helped change minds and feelings over the years but at the same time I often feel for the person being identified so much by their sexual preference. No one would ever refer to me as the openly straight whatever. I can't decide how I feel and what I think the right feeling is. I just know it bothers me the same way it bothers me when the media identifies children who are adopted every single time. It makes it feel to me that it is still a less than. Less than biological children and less than straight.

Anyhow, slapping this here as it is sundries and your take would be really interesting to me.

[dsudis.livejournal.com]

Well, god dammit, NBC, now I am going to have to give up my DIE IN A FIRE outrage over your programming decisions and watch this.

I mean, if you had asked me: how could NBC make another show that you would risk watching knowing perfectly well they will cancel it and break your heart, I would say, David Tennant? And he's scared and upset? Ooh, and he's a lawyer? IN CHICAGO? OKAY FINE LENO NETWORK FINE I WILL WATCH.

[rm.livejournal.com]

No one has to refer to you, or anyone as an openly straight person because it is assumed that most people are straight. Additionally, no one has to come out as straight. When a woman introduces her boyfriend or her husband no one blinks or pauses or asks what she means. All of those things happen when I woman introduces her girlfriend or wife -- often even when the people she is introducing them to are queer-allies.

What defines a person? Our jobs? Often when we meet someone new and have nothing to say we ask what they do. I think this is a terrible measure of a person, few of us are fortunate enough to have jobs we love or jobs that define us in ways that we choose. Is defining someone based on who or how they love really worse than this? I can't think so at all.

The other day there was a big LJ drama with some woman who didn't think gay people existed 100 years ago. Existing and being visible is really, really important. Especially when a disproportionately high percentage of teen suicides and runaways are LGBTQ. It's important for gay people to be seen in the culture in every which way.

Finally, I think you stray into (unintentionally) dangerous category when saying "why does this have to be so front and center" since so many bigots use the "you can be gay, just don't shove it in my face" argument, but which they mean, don't put pictures of you and your partner on your desk at work or acknowledge them in any way. I know this is not what you mean, but it needs to be acknowledged since you did ask.

I agree with you, I think, about the adoption thing, about how that seems non-normalizing, but that's not a topic I have any personal frame of reference on and would defer to others about.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

He would have made a great Han!

[sociallyawkrd.livejournal.com]

I agree about straying into the dangerous category and had thought of that. I don't at all have a problem when the person chooses to make the distinction. And I did not listen closely so possibly the owner had made public statements about the importance of her being the first openly gay MLB owner. That doesn't bother me at all.

I don't for the record think it is a bad thing to identify with your sexual orientation. I just grimace when it feels like the media or whomever is saying being gay is a one off. At the same time I don't want it to be ignored for exactly what you said, existing and being visible.

I think I am still stuck on how I feel. But as I suspected your answer is through provoking.

[aviv-b.livejournal.com]

The only good thing about David Tennant being in the new show is that maybe they'll film some of it in Chicago. Hey, I keep seeing Brian Dennehey around whenever he's in town, and he does nothing for me.

Cubs - interesting point. I'm of two minds about this. In an ideal world, you shouldn't have to say anything about someone's race, religion, sexual orientation etc. But given that there is so much prejudice surrounding these issues, sometimes it can serve a purpose as a role model etc(e.g. a black President, openly gay senators, etc).

But in this case OK, so she's gay. What's the point? She's a business owner. Does that make any difference to us Cub's fans who want a winning team? Not me anyway...I don't care if a Weevil owns the Cubs as long as we get a decent team. But I'd hate to think if the Cubs continue to lose that people will be blaming it 'on that GAY owner.'

[meirion.livejournal.com]

But if people are told they should be evaluated for autism, he went on, “they will say: ‘No, no, no. I can talk. I have a friend. What a ridiculous suggestion!’ So we will miss the opportunity to assess people.”

Unfortunately, I have been at the receiving end of the opposite of this. I asked a shrink who assumed I was just depressed to try to evaluate me for an autism-spectrum disorder (yes, Asperger's, as it happens) only to be told "you have friends, you are part of a community, obviously you don't have an autism-spectrum disorder". I tried to get him to come and visit said community which is entirely full of people with an autism-spectrum disorder, and which (largely because of that) has been billed the most unfriendly church in Cambridge, but did he?

Instead we are working, through our Social Responsibility Group, to make more contacts with the autistic community in Cambridge (which is quite large, and increasing).

I hope this will work. I don't know what else I can do, as someone who in person isn't obviously autistic unless life has gone so horribly wrong that I can't stop myself from avoiding eye-contact and rocking (which happened most recently when a friend killed himself at the end of September).

[sociallyawkrd.livejournal.com]

Just to clarify I have never and would never say "Why does it have to be so in your face." I don't think a person who chooses to tell everyone or anyone is doing anything I have any sort of issue with.

My issue is solely related to how the media identifies people. And whether I think that is a good or bad thing. And I think it is in fact both.

I get being straight is the default and that is why I would never be identified as such but it worries me when the media takes it upon themselves to identify everyone as gay if they are that somehow that is making it lesser than straight.

I don't want to come off as a jackass here because I get that I don't have the same stake in it. But at the same time I do have some stake in the perception and identification of sexual orientation by the media. I am raising a son who I want to grow up as either 1. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, gay man or 2. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, bisexual man or 3. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, transgendered man or 4. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, asexual man or 5. 2. A happy, adjusted, well treated, granted all the civil rights as anyone is, loved, not abused, straight man

I want all of these men to treat everyone with kindness and respect. I want him to not be influenced by the media as to what is normative and not. I am scared that he will end up fodder for the bigots or a bigot himself.

So I realize I don't get it right all the time. But it is why I ask these questions because I want to. I realize the privilege I get as a straight, white, woman. I understand that privilege shapes my opinions and feelings. I try very hard to reach beyond that so I can understand it.

Anyhow, clearly I am defensive :)

K.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Maybe you should visit http://www.GLAAD.org, which is all about LGBTQ and media representation and image. I don't know my way around their site that well, but they might have some position papers on this that are useful to your process on it.

And I do think you have a stake in this. We all have a stake in this. I just don't think you have a _risk_ in this, at least right now.

[lovefromgirl.livejournal.com]

My local con, coming up this weekend, is sharing a hotel with the Jehovah's Witnesses. Boyfriend to clerk: "If we say we're Jehovah's Witnesses, can we get their room rate instead?" (He is coming from out of town, so we're getting a room just because.)

[sociallyawkrd.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I hope you understand I wasn't looking for you to be my tour guide on the issue. Rather I seriously find the things you say very thought provoking. I appreciate your answer.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Yup, it's all good. One of the other things that can be weird about this stuff, is as much as I do need to think about these issues, sometimes I just don't, since I'm often like "oh hey, one for our team!"

[xtricks.livejournal.com]

That's weird. I've seen rats have oral sex. I've seen dogs have oral sex (69 no less). If they define it to ejaculation ... maybe not but what I've seen was certianly genital stimulation with the mouth because it felt good.

[sociallyawkrd.livejournal.com]

I think I used a bad example too. Because the reason it was news was because it was a first. I was pleased in the fact that I think every time we have a first it makes it a lot easier to have the next million. It just started me thinking it. I think it niggles at me more when it is "Gay man saves drowning child" -type stories. It always feels to me that it is just a SHOCK that someone who is gay could do something so good. Anyhow...thanks again!

[rm.livejournal.com]

One more data point for you. I now go nuts in articles when they mention someone's partner and I can't figure out if it's a gay or a straight partner. As a queer person, I still want the data apparently. Don't know if that's good or bad.

[riverrocks.livejournal.com]

The electric car for wheelchair users is pretty awesome (and double points for the places that provide them free as part of healthcare). It also gets extra points for being designed and sized such that it can be parked in a regular parking spot, thus not limiting the user to the one or two allotted specifically "accessible" spots.

It does suffer, however, from the assumption that the only thing a person using a wheelchair will need to transport in said vehicle is themselves. Single occupancy is somewhat typical with the smaller electric vehicles, but unless I'm missing something (which i might be, since there are only a couple of pictures and those focus on how the chair fits into the car) there is no compartment for storage of things like, say, a backpack or a bag or two of groceries. This assumption, even in the development/provision of devices that provide better access, that basic tasks like grocery shopping and other self/home-care tasks will be done by someone else (often an unspecified, invisible, unfunded someone else) is a barrier to access/inclusion/participation that gets missed a lot.

[weirdquark]

My roommate and I have been watching Foyle's War; at one point David Tennant turned up in one of the episodes as a pacifist. It was extremely distracting.

If you're not familiar with Foyle's War, you should check it out; it's really excellent.

[laughingacademy.livejournal.com]

I recall reading a book about the making of Star Wars back in grade school which said that in a very early draft, Luke and Leia were one (female) character, Han Solo was a grizzled old soldier (perhaps more like Obi-Wan?), and the Wookies rode giant birds(?!?) into battle.