Well, this is a disaster.

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I joke, a lot, that no one wants to be famous or successful because they're well-adjusted. "None of us, you know, got enough love in our childhoods," I say.

I just figured out why the whole fucking marriage equality makes me so completely aggravated and stressed despite the fact that I'm actually pretty conflicted on the role marriage has both in gay culture and in turning couples of any type from "people in love" into "people obsessed with shoulds." (Obviously this whole mess doesn't do poly and plural marriages any favors either, since one of the main arguments seems to be "we're just gay, we don't fuck dogs or have lots of wives" -- which hello, is two types of totally different Not Okay Statements to Have to Make rolled into one asinine sentence).

I should have been done losing popularity contests in eighth grade. We all should have been done holding in eight grade.

Fuck you, Maine

Fuck you, bigots.

I don't want to catastrophize here, but the Maine situation is scary. Because it allows the bigots to think they have momentum, to think they are right, to think that we are abominations. That's one of those very funny words until it's applied to you.

I'm very scared of the implications of this. I know what anti-gay violence looks like first hand, and I am very concerned we're about to have a lot of it, and not just in Maine. I'm very concerned about what happens after the Obama years, when the backlash puts the bigots back in office right at the top. I'm very scared of the hate crimes law getting repealed; of my gay friends who have been able to marry being in danger because they are down on government paper as officially gay.

If you think I'm paranoid, think back to most of the events leading into and happening during the Bush administration. Right, now if you had called any of that shit back during the Clinton years, people would have said you were paranoid and worse. Yeah... well.... shit.

Comments

[thaddeusfavour.livejournal.com]

I am not at all happy with "marriage" as it stands in our society. Though straight and married, I've decided to view my "marriage" as a social and legal contract, which indeed, it is. You see, Mr. Thad and I were married by a notary public, not under the so-called authority of the church. Therefore, I proudly proclaim that my social contract to Mr. Thad has been going on for nearly 25 years.

Marriage is just that, only that. A social and legal contract. If it isn't readily available to all equally under the law, then it is discriminatory and our nation is not truly the land of the free, but the land of the only partially oppressed.

(FYI - I do believe in love as an element of marriage, as mine has been filled with it, but thankfully the government has no way yet to demand adherence to certain emotions when filling out social and legal contracts! Love, while grand, has nothing to do with the actual effects of a marriage as far as society or the courts are concerned. Let's start treating marriage as what it is.)

Short answer: I completely agree with you and share your outrage.

[laufeyette.livejournal.com]

Marriage is just that, only that. A social and legal contract. If it isn't readily available to all equally under the law, then it is discriminatory and our nation is not truly the land of the free, but the land of the only partially oppressed.

My thoughts exactly.