Well, this is a disaster.

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I joke, a lot, that no one wants to be famous or successful because they're well-adjusted. "None of us, you know, got enough love in our childhoods," I say.

I just figured out why the whole fucking marriage equality makes me so completely aggravated and stressed despite the fact that I'm actually pretty conflicted on the role marriage has both in gay culture and in turning couples of any type from "people in love" into "people obsessed with shoulds." (Obviously this whole mess doesn't do poly and plural marriages any favors either, since one of the main arguments seems to be "we're just gay, we don't fuck dogs or have lots of wives" -- which hello, is two types of totally different Not Okay Statements to Have to Make rolled into one asinine sentence).

I should have been done losing popularity contests in eighth grade. We all should have been done holding in eight grade.

Fuck you, Maine

Fuck you, bigots.

I don't want to catastrophize here, but the Maine situation is scary. Because it allows the bigots to think they have momentum, to think they are right, to think that we are abominations. That's one of those very funny words until it's applied to you.

I'm very scared of the implications of this. I know what anti-gay violence looks like first hand, and I am very concerned we're about to have a lot of it, and not just in Maine. I'm very concerned about what happens after the Obama years, when the backlash puts the bigots back in office right at the top. I'm very scared of the hate crimes law getting repealed; of my gay friends who have been able to marry being in danger because they are down on government paper as officially gay.

If you think I'm paranoid, think back to most of the events leading into and happening during the Bush administration. Right, now if you had called any of that shit back during the Clinton years, people would have said you were paranoid and worse. Yeah... well.... shit.

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One cannot claim to be fair-minded and still support measures which deny full equality. You either support full justice and civil rights and equality or you don't. Period. End of side-stepping and excuses. The abomination here is that the rights of a miniority can be put up for popular vote as though it were some sort of highway project.

We live in a rural area that is by and large not known for a lot of tolerance. WHen shit like this happens it gets the religious yahoos all fired up and then Debra & I feel like we need to hunker down with squirrel rifles like a couple of hard-bitten frontier women. I keep seeing people say that it will change, the old base is dying off and whathave you. Fuck that. It doen't mean a goddamn thing when you have to live around the homobigots that think it's pretty goddamn funny to terrorize the dog that belongs to 'them dykes', and when you fuck with our animals, you are most definitely fucking with us. If our immediate neighbors weren't so wonderful and protective of us, we'd be ready to just leave and suffer the loss that we'd take because of the crappy housing market. Makes me wonder why we thought it would be easier to live out here than back east. I miss Southern New England, huge rents and all.

We could give a rat's ass about marriage---we just want our rights and protections. , so yeah...fuck you, bigots.