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Patty wants a pony. Actually, she needs book recs for our trip!

If you're just scrolling through now, my Maine fury is in the post prior to this.

I wish I could retroactively cancel the subscription I had to Seventeen twenty-five years ago. Why? Oh, you know, transphobia.

Official who refused to perform interracial marriages has resigned. While whining about not being allowed to put his conscience into practice.

Man, it's not just Maine that's all on the "some citizens have more rights than others" bandwagon. Yeah, apparently now we're talking about healthcare reform not applying to legal immigrants.

Emma Thompson has agreed to remove her name from a petition supporting Polanski's release.

Some people I know have received some horrifically bad news. I am sad.

Meanwhile, I'm still behind on my NaNo quota, but I wrote another great chapter yesterday and started another chapter that I really need to finish today, although I am not sure when.

I'm not a fan of modern stuff. In fact, I find this rather ugly, but I can recognize that it's well-done and interesting. Non-driver in Berlin renovates gas station and turns it into a home.

Comments

[redstapler.livejournal.com]

That Seventeen article was problematic on several levels.

It smacked of transphobia, and it was lacking a trans POV.

That said, I felt like the telling of the tale and the framing of it were two different opinions. The "author" seemed more upset over the fact she felt she'd been lied to, and worse, the way she found out. The way the article was written, and the way it was framed in the layout was all OMG HE WAS REALLY A SHE HOW AWFUL.

I feel like the disclosure discussion is one I am ill-equipped to make. I know it's something I would like to know, but I'm also not going to proscribe what's right or good for the trans community. Even in the comments at PHB, there was disagreement amongst the trans commenters about it.

[rm.livejournal.com]

To me the issue with the article isn't about disclosure at all. It's that the article refused to accept the existence of trans identity and implied that the act of existing as a trans person was an act of lying as opposed to maybe this particular relationship issue was or wasn't handled well.

[redstapler.livejournal.com]

Gah, that's the point I was trying to make.

Thank you for clarifying it.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Heh! It's going to be a bad day on the Internet.

[newsbean.livejournal.com]

I've had to check several times this morning to make sure we're not Mercury Retrograde and no one told me.

I like to consider myself the "Green Eggs and Ham" on the social/sexual buffet.

[bodlon.livejournal.com]

Hand to heart, I don't think the disclosure thing is something that will ever be easy in our generation. I know I tend to lead with it on dating sites, and I don't really make a secret of my trans status, but I can think of instances where it was not going to be the first thing out of my mouth for eleventy-billion reasons, one of which has absolutely been the desire to shag or date. The hope is always that someone will see me first, and then accept (and even, holy crap, totally dig?) my hybrid anatomy on account of the rest of the awesome.

But damn, the lying liar narrative is such a huge presence in our culture. And the "but you're really a..." thing. Seventeen need to back the fuck up and run a real, actual, not-sensationalized article on this stuff. This is not okay.