well if we divide the words out, then obviously if your church or what not permits mariages between people of the same sex, its a marriage.... but you take the CIVIL law right out of it.
do i think it will happen? sigh... no do i think it SHOULD be that i, a het married lady, have to deal with the fact that my churches opinions of my relationship... and my tax status are different things? yup. i think we really, desperately, need to divide out the religious marriage.... and the civil legal contract
and i will remind you that there are many many people who dont think you should be able to marry someone of your same gender...... who do not want to see you hurt, or dead.. or anything. they may or may not wish to DEAL with you at all, but most of the people i know(an admittedly limited sample) who oppose gay marriage... are totally opposed to the idea that anyone should be assaulted or harmed for their gender choices or what not.
my husband was against gay marriage for a long time...... and he is hardly in favor of harming you or anyone.... it wasnt until i pointed out the CIVIL meaning of a marriage, that we have... that our friends who are gay CANNOT get without jumping through hoops.... that he came around. it doesnt equate all the time.
i suspect the problem does end up with polarized sides...... since certainly SOME, (and the loudest) anti gay marriage folks are potentially dangerous.... it is a safety thing to assume that anyone anti gay marriage is potentially hazardous.
just remember, the vast majority...... the people who are the main body of voters. dont really CARE what you do as long as they dont have to personally deal with it...... the reason they vote against gay marriage is because they think they WILL have to deal with it, and they think it will involve their religion. the same people who are fine with "that nice gay couple across teh street" are voting against marriage because they are afraid of what it will mean for their church. .... because "marriage " is religious.
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Date: 2009-12-04 03:21 am (UTC)do i think it will happen? sigh... no
do i think it SHOULD be that i, a het married lady, have to deal with the fact that my churches opinions of my relationship... and my tax status are different things? yup. i think we really, desperately, need to divide out the religious marriage.... and the civil legal contract
and i will remind you that there are many many people who dont think you should be able to marry someone of your same gender...... who do not want to see you hurt, or dead.. or anything. they may or may not wish to DEAL with you at all, but most of the people i know(an admittedly limited sample) who oppose gay marriage... are totally opposed to the idea that anyone should be assaulted or harmed for their gender choices or what not.
my husband was against gay marriage for a long time...... and he is hardly in favor of harming you or anyone.... it wasnt until i pointed out the CIVIL meaning of a marriage, that we have... that our friends who are gay CANNOT get without jumping through hoops.... that he came around. it doesnt equate all the time.
i suspect the problem does end up with polarized sides...... since certainly SOME, (and the loudest) anti gay marriage folks are potentially dangerous.... it is a safety thing to assume that anyone anti gay marriage is potentially hazardous.
just remember, the vast majority...... the people who are the main body of voters. dont really CARE what you do as long as they dont have to personally deal with it...... the reason they vote against gay marriage is because they think they WILL have to deal with it, and they think it will involve their religion. the same people who are fine with "that nice gay couple across teh street" are voting against marriage because they are afraid of what it will mean for their church. .... because "marriage " is religious.