in which I say something unpleasant, incendiary and triggery about those opposed to DADT repeal

[rm]

I'm following the hearings a bit and the usual chestnut of "there will be more male-on-male rape if we allow homosexuals in the military" keeps getting dragged out.

1. There are already gay people in the military.
2. If they were going to commit rape, a change in the DADT laws wouldn't stop them.
3. Gay women exist.
4. Why do you think all gay men are rapists?

And then I go "Ooooooooooooooooooh."

Because for me, the only reasonable explanation I can find for the "all gay men want to do is rape other men" bullshit isn't the "homophobia comes from latent homosexuality" argument.

Nope, I hear this shit and I think to myself that these straight men arguing this want to rape every woman they see (whether they ever would or not). And knowing their own desires, they assume that their rape impulses are normal, and that all men, including all gay men, must harbour them too.

It completely creeps me out.

Because let's be clear: the desire to rape, regardless of gender or orientation, is not a default state, and most men aren't rapists and don't desire to be rapists.

But I am completely creeped the fuck out by our politicians that keep arguing the damn gay rape angle.

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[sparkindarkness.livejournal.com]

I am so enraged by that excuse. I am a gay man, I do not want to have sex with every man I see. I have no intentions of sexually assaulting ANY man.

For gods' sake, even coming into a straight man runs the high risk of being beaten and killed - and then the court case raising the inevitable gay panic excuse.

I hear it too much and I am mortally offended every time. I am a gay man. I am not a bloody rapist. Every man who has been in my bed has WANTED to be there and I have no interest in sex with someone who does not want to have sex with me - I do not remotely see the attraction of sex with someone who doesn't enjoy it as much as I do


It also misses and stomps over the point that, while the majority of VICTIMS of male-on-male rape are gay, the majority of PERPETRATORS are straight. Male rape is very often a hate crime against us.