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Trying more of this hyper-focus thing today. Yesterday I got scads done, cleaned all the things and got to have a nice night with Patty. I may also have solved the cruise conundrum (anyone have feelings about Celebrity as a line?).

I may also have solved the dress conundrum. Yes, I say I don't like one-shouldered numbers and worry black is too sedate, but this is a good dress-up/dress-down dress and it's not about the dress anyway, it's about my neckline and my tattoo. I don't want people to be looking at the dress. I do worry it's too safe, or that it won't fit right, but I suppose, order now, have time to solve issues later (because, among other things, I might want to get it shortened so it's just above my knee instead of just below it).

How and why false confessions happen.

Report cards from the Manhattan Trade School for Girls. Weirdly enough, I used to live across the street from there in the Russell Sage building. During the years I lived there there was one shop room on the first floor with frosted windows that someone had leaned a big teddy bear up against on the inside. I can't tell you how many times I walked by their at night with friends who were startled by this shadowy figure and, then, after noticing it that first time, never, ever stopped being creeped out by it.

Vodoun, stigma and status in Benin.

The next steps in the marriage equality battle in New York.

theferrett has something on real names vs. usernames. I cannot speak to the developer-related aspects of this, but one of the valuable things about usernames are that they make engagement with pseudonoymous identities explicit, as opposed to the murky world of "yes, you can just lie about you real name if you need a pseudononymous identity." Being out, about all sorts of things, is a privilege, and I think it's more generous to users and better for online culture, when we can say "here is my mask or shield and I stand by it as my identity and my brand" as opposed to "here is my real name I may or may not be lying about."

Last night on Angel: Monster of the week episode; girl gets turned into a werewolf, plot stolen from half-a-dozen places. On the other hand, I feel like in my ongoing "OMG, RTD, I see what you did there!" tirade, this is the most important episode yet.

There's the end -- where we have this gorgeous team, chilling out, awkwardly, in their fearless leader (to whom they can't quite connect) pad overlooking the city. There's Spike and his struggle against hell (is something moving in the dark, Blondiebear? That's what I want to know). There's the discussion of Angel and his ability to have relationships. There's the mistrust of Gunn and his enhancements (don't use alien artifacts for your own amusement, kids). There's Wesley inability to say anything without sounding slightly smarmy (is that intentional in the performance or just an awkward side-effect of my having seen Torchwood first and the way Denisof sort of smirks his way through every line?) There's the way Angel's like "fine, eat the other guy, I don't give a shit."

All the brutality and love hung on a sort of pointless frame that I think of as so emblematic of the first two seasons of Torchwood is all so right here.

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(As does 90% of everything I've ever seen written by that person.)

I stopped reading him after the "Open Source Boobs" debacle. Just...no.

The biggest problem for me is the idea that a person should only have one name forever and ever amen. That's utterly, completely ridiculous. Historically, also ridiculous given titles and nicknames and middle names and names given for a host of reasons from religious to personal.

Heh. I'm in full agreement. I fought with my family for YEARS over the idea that I should be called what I wish to be called. My given name is Margaret Susanne, which I like fine. My family insisted on calling me Peggy Sue, which I did not and do not like in the slightest, so I used to insist on being called Margaret, even though it's a pretty stern sounding name for a young person.

When I met my husband, he started calling me Maggie, which I like. He also started calling me any number of variations of Maggie, which I also like. My family threw a fit, because "That's not your name!"

My best friend calls me Missy. He always has. For him, it's an endearment like honey or sweetie or sugar. I like that name a lot, too, and it is the name I work under and am known by on the Internet, and my friends alternate between Maggie and Missy. And my husband throws a fit about it, because "That's not your name!"

*sigh* I tell them all I'm going to change my name to Fred if they don't stop their bickering.

[jeliza]

There are Certain People in my life who refer to me as "Janie Beth." The fact that I haven't hauled off and smacked them across the face for this is, I believe, the first of my three required miracles for sainthood.