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rmDo not EVER call me "girl" as a term of address (except, possibly, in the "girl, you know it!" or similar "hey, girl!" (said among equals, not as if I were a horse) colloquial sort of way -- I unprefer it, but will not take umbrage to it).
Doesn't matter if you understand the context for my objection or not. I have a name, actually several in certain senses, and they've each been earned several times over. Courtesy would demand you don't take liberties with those either -- for starts, my name isn't Rachel, for seconds you can't just automatically use my standard nickname if you haven't previously (ask please, I won't say no probably, I just loathe the presumption), and there are certain terms of address that need to stay within the frame or subset of my life they originated in. Certain unfortunate past terms of address, while essentially impossible to strike from the record, are, to put it mildly, inadvisable to use, unless your intent is to be discourteous.
Finally, if you've been bounced out (or you, yourself flounced out) of my life and want back, you have to go to start with proper name again, otherwise, I'll just think you're wheedling. You can't remember it? ASK ME.
Doesn't matter if you understand the context for my objection or not. I have a name, actually several in certain senses, and they've each been earned several times over. Courtesy would demand you don't take liberties with those either -- for starts, my name isn't Rachel, for seconds you can't just automatically use my standard nickname if you haven't previously (ask please, I won't say no probably, I just loathe the presumption), and there are certain terms of address that need to stay within the frame or subset of my life they originated in. Certain unfortunate past terms of address, while essentially impossible to strike from the record, are, to put it mildly, inadvisable to use, unless your intent is to be discourteous.
Finally, if you've been bounced out (or you, yourself flounced out) of my life and want back, you have to go to start with proper name again, otherwise, I'll just think you're wheedling. You can't remember it? ASK ME.
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Date: 2006-10-02 07:23 pm (UTC)