sundries

[rm]

- Stuck in the middle of like a bazillion pieces of writing.

- Doing other work now.

- I really need to let myself actually be engaging the Patty countdown.

- We are having tech fail -- she's having problems with her laptop, ipod and Nook. I meanwhile can't find my fucking iPod.

- Ugly scarf: http://yfrog.com/h779853133j Scarf aside, gosh, I look cute. Sorry, I have to be vain when I've not had Patty around to remind me that I actually succeed well amongst the other humans.

- Twitpic was made of so much fail today.

- RSVP'd for a bridal shower we were invited to. Have I mentioned this? We got the invite, and it's a friend of Patty's I've only met once, and I literally was like "wait, why am I invited, this is for girls?" And then I was like "Oh, I'm just confused again." I've never actually been to a bridal shower. I hear there are terrifying games involved.

Comments

[pantryslut.livejournal.com]

I've never been to a bridal shower either. I'm still not entirely clear on the concept, even.

[imaginarycircus.livejournal.com]

I've never been to a bridal shower that had terrifying games. Usually you just eat things and watch someone open presents.

[yamx]

I like the scarf. (And you do look cute.) :)

[darthhellokitty.livejournal.com]

You are much better looking than the scarf. XD

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

The worst that I ran into (mind, this is 20 years ago) was the mothers insisting that one should take all the bows and ribbons from the packages and thread them through/stick them onto a paper plate. This is allegedly to create a mock-bouquet to be used at the wedding rehearsal. And then some less-clueful sorts thought that this thing looked like a bonnet, and tried to make the bride wear it as a hat. No weird games.

[bare-bear.livejournal.com]

Every bridal/baby shower I've ever been to has included hats made out of bows. If I ever have any kind of 'shower', there will be copious amounts of alcohol for the guests and maybe a fire to burn the bloody bows.

Granted, the pic of my Mom preggers with me with a stupid bow-hat on her head is pretty hilarious, especially with the unimpressed expression on her face. :)

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

IT'S NOT A HAT. IT'S A PRACTICE BOUQUET DAMMIT.

The evolution into hat speaks of casual social cruelty.

[spreadsothin.livejournal.com]

This is a really interesting opinion.

I have a very different experience. As a child I grew up with the practice of making it as a hat, and it was explained to me as a way to honor the guest. I really loved making the hats and wore one at my bridal shower, as I expected. It was nice for me to have that expectation fulfilled.

Could the difference perhaps be regional?

[laughingacademy.livejournal.com]

I've been to one bridal shower, where the guests played a Mad Libs-style game and the bride-to-be wore a hat decorated with all the bows from the presents she unwrapped. I have heard of parties at which the guests are divided into teams that drape toilet-paper wedding gowns onto one of their group.

[rm.livejournal.com]

Oh my god. Really? I'm trying to process myself in such an environment. It's not good.

[melebeth]

It's awful, actually, and I'm vaguely and uselessly hoping it's the same one I have to go to so that I won't be suffering alone. (I hate bridal showers.)

[rm.livejournal.com]

April 16th? 1pm?

[melebeth]

Darn it, no. April 10. 3:30 PM. I am cursed to curse alone!

(Also, it occurred to me in the car today to wonder why it is Klaine and not Blurt. I felt as though I should share.)

[rm.livejournal.com]

Tragic. I'll see you on the 6th though, as I'm being helpful at the thingy.

I think because Blurt (which is HILARIOUS) is too east to typo to Kurt's dad's name. That's the nice answer. The not nice answer is long and involves fandom stereotypes about tops and bottoms and what character they like better.

Personally, I really, really, hate the name elision thing in general (although I did have a fondness for the hilarity of Gwack for Gwen/Jack in Torchwood) so I keep trying not to keep saying Klaine, but I think I keep doing it anyway.

[melebeth]

Oh good! I'll look forward to it since I now don't have to dash down to DC and back that day for work. I was going to be seriously peeved to miss said thing.

As for the rest... *sigh* There is a reason why your writing and recommendations direct 95% of my forays into online fandom.

[jinian.livejournal.com]

Wow, Gwack is beautiful. I hadn't encountered that one.

Your hair is fantastic in that scarf photo!

[coneyislandbaby]

I actually used to really hate Gwack because it didn't seem (as Janto did) to come from those who liked the pairing (whether, like me, it was as a multishipper, or the people who actually shipped Jack and Gwen exclusively), but more from the sectors of fandom that looked down on the pairing and disliked it, but I may have only seen it from those sectors of fandom. I just feel that a pairing smushname should come from the fans, not the detractors.

[heavenscalyx.livejournal.com]

I'd say it's for the same reason it's Snarry and not Snotter.

[roadnotes.livejournal.com]

That's when you have to be able to get a call saying that you have to rush to work.

[fleur.livejournal.com]

I despise showers of all kinds as they are simply blatant gift-grabs. I've played all the stupid games mentioned above and then some.

At best they are boring, since you sit and watch someone else open presents. At worst, the humiliating games.

Avoid.

[elusis.livejournal.com]

Oh hear, hear. To all of this.

[tsarina.livejournal.com]

That scarf looks cute on you - you look like you should be hanging out with the hip film dudes at the Highball.

Oh god, bridal shower nonsense. Hopefully it will be reasonable and just opening presents, eating snacks.

[bare-bear.livejournal.com]

I like the scarf! I kind of want to steal the scarf.

Also, I like how you styled your hair. :)

[akycha.livejournal.com]

Oh, dear.

I was going to comment on bridal showers but now I have to point out that it took me a good two minutes to figure out that the little chibi-Darcy was merely wearing fashionable buff trousers and was NOT giving his famous speech sans pants.

[bare-bear.livejournal.com]

I'm never going to be able to look at this icon the same again. LOL!

[shesingsnow.livejournal.com]

I live in fear of bridal and baby showers, because of the games. And I'm allergic to "girl" stuff.

However, I recently went to a bridal shower that was in a sweet little tea shop. No games. Just tea, coffee, salad, quiche, cake and pie. Not bad. No suffering involved.

[schpahky.livejournal.com]

Nautical scarf is nautical!

[marzipan-pig.livejournal.com]

The last one I went to I insisted on calling a pre-commitment ceremony girl power meeting. Or something. Wait, that was the bachelorette. Still, everyone humored me.

[steeldreams.livejournal.com]

Bridal shower games are less terrifying than baby shower games. Just sayin'.

[marchek.livejournal.com]

I've been to bridal showers that were horrible with stupid games as well as those which were really classy that just involved friends getting together to celebrate the upcoming nuptials. The more awesome bridal showers involved all the friends of the bride including men.

I am however fearing a baby shower that I'm supposed to attend at the end of April. I'm getting the bad game vibe off of the person planning it.

[jethrien.livejournal.com]

Mine was a tea party. No games of any kind. Just tea and little sandwiches and cute desserts. Really, the only mildly embarrassing thing about it was a somewhat risque toast my grandmother insisted on writing on a cocktail napkin, that was kind of hilarious at the same time. They don't have to be awful.

[heavenscalyx.livejournal.com]

Tech woes: the latest Mercury retrograde starts tomorrow.

[contrarywise]

At least it's unlikely to be like Gwen's bridal shower, where everyone must wear identical ridiculous hats and the bride is infested with an alien parasite. Although that might be more entertaining.

[rufus.livejournal.com]

I've had at least one awful shower experience - it's too long to go into here, but suffice it to say, it concluded in communal purchasing of sex toys and I had to explain how cock rings worked - but I've had some great times, too.

My personal favorite was the one for my dearest high school friend, who was getting married in India, and specifically asked us to plan something small, just for our little group, that would be our own thing - our way of celebrating the moment of transition with her, even though we wouldn't be able to be actually with her on the day. So we made the stupid practice bouquet, which she found both baffling and charming, and had tea and cake and sandwiches, and it was overall quite delightful.

[citrinesunset.livejournal.com]

I've been to one bridal shower, and it was kind of weird. We had to divide into teams and design wedding gowns out of toilet paper.

I'm stuck in the middle of a bunch of writing, too, but I think I'm picking away at it.

[kdsorceress.livejournal.com]

Ahhhhhh fuuuuuuuuck, you have reminded me that I'm technically supposed to plan one of these for my awesome friend Luna sometime soon. (Luckily she has just as little idea of what the hell the maid of honor is supposed to do as I, and so it's inevitably going to result in me just buying her legos or something.)

The only shower I remember attending was a baby shower. I remember it because I was running around the side of the house (at age ten or twelve) and WHAMMED into the not-quite-high-enough cement side of the house. BLOOD EVERYWHERE and I forced my cousin to go inside and not panic but to GET ME AN ADULT NOW PLEASE.

So I am pretty much naturally dubious of all showers.

~Sor

[jinian.livejournal.com]

Legos! I totally want Legos if I'm ever forced to have a shower for some reason. I tried to get my best friend to promise to start a food fight in the dreaded event, but she was appalled. (Apparently you do not do that with food.) Legos I am sure she could manage!

[ladyofthelog.livejournal.com]

I've never been to a bridal shower that wasn't awesome and didn't have delicious food, but I've also never been to a bridal shower for anyone I wasn't related to. So. I don't know, the weirdest thing that ever happens at my family's bridal showers is that someone ALWAYS gets the bride really sexy underwear from Victoria's Secret that's like zebra print or something. (But this is NYC, they probably go somewhere more classy for the animal print thongs here.)

[tsgeisel.livejournal.com]

You make the scarf look jaunty.

[spreadsothin.livejournal.com]

I am straight married and had a bridal shower thrown by my aunt/woman of honor. I was overwhelmed with how few of my friends came, how much of my family, and how much overwhelming love and sisterhood there was in the room.
My four year old cousin helped me open the gifts, so I was explaining things to her. Afterward, there was an embarrassing game of reading the things I said when I opened gifts as though they were things I would say on my wedding night. The game broke down when they realized how creepy it sounded.
There were some underwear & handcuff gag gifts, which was embarrassing around relatives.
My relatives made the invites women only. A genderqueer friend came with hir male boyfriend. When male boyfriend was asked to leave, genderqueer friend got upset. It was a strange situation. I'm closer with male boyfriend and it's never come up.

The best wedding shower was my aunts, to which I wore 8$ skintight pleather pants. And at which I bent over. And had the back seam split completely. And at which there was a lovely older woman with a sewing kit in her purse. And I tucked a napkin into the waistband to cover my butt, and then went and sewed my pants in the bathroom. #best

[bodlon.livejournal.com]

I was the only guy at a shower once. The games are indeed terrifying. I suspect I was not the target audience.